sledg, No, I'm a dork, too!
Actually, I think for me (and my DH will attest to this) I'm a slow learner. With everything. My lightbulb moments come infrequently. Also, like I said before, I'm a wallower. For whatever reason. I get very negative, and I don't see any way out of a situation, or a way to change things. Then I realize that I actually have to do
Wondering where that comes from?
Also-sledg-I've realized that I immediately say NO or "As soon as I'm..." ALL THE TIME. I hate to admit that, but I rarely lately say, "Yep, sure.". And Bears (and my other child) need that.
Bears had a great day playing with a friend, and is now so darn tired, he is just wreaking havoc on our house. We ordered a pizza for dinner tonight and ate out on the deck. The kids usually love this. Bears refused to sit at the table, didn't eat. And then when everyone was done, said, "Where's my dinner?". He had 45 minutes to eat with us, and chose to run around. Fine. But then it's like tears, screams, etc., b/c we're all finished. He's been randomly hitting us, etc.
Also, today he got into a little altercation about a toy with his friend. Well, it ended in both boys crying. The other boy ran to his dad for comfort and just let his dad hold him for a bit. Bears, OTOH, didn't come near me, didn't let me touch him, and while he was crying was trying to psychotically laugh and smile. This happens sometimes. I always try to tell him, when you're sad, just be sad. When you're mad, just be mad. You don't have to be anything else.
So, it's so hard to feel at all useful/helpful, like a parent, really, when he's going thru these times. It feels like he would rather be raised by wolves in the woods. Takes no direction, wants no comfort, and hides or masks his feelings/need to solace, etc. It's just rough. It brings out the worst in me. And right now, I don't want to be with him. Thank GOD DH is off for a few days next week. We can share this load this time.
Thanks for listening, as always, mamas.
Oh, sledg-Bears is OBSESSED with math and math problems. He does them all day long and sometimes I have to tell him that I need to take a break from addition/multiplication.