My oldest slept through the night at 3. He was weaned from the breast at 14 months, so I don't think there was any relationship there!
My younger son is 2 and a 1/2 and still waking 2-6 times a night. He is nightweaned.
As far as I know, this is just the way it goes!
I admire you for having such a great attitude about it.
Also, studies have shown that cereal does not help babies sleep longer. Why would it - it's only carbs, and often simple carbs at that (white rice cereal = Wonder bread in nutrition, as I think DaryLLL pointed out). Whereas breastmilk is carbs, protein, and fat. Evening milk is higher in fat to help keep babies fuller longer.
It's so frustrating when relatives/friends who know little or nothing about breastfeeding and co-sleeping offer unsolicited advice! My answer to questions re: sleeping through the night is to tell them things are going great, without elaboration.
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Every baby's metabolism is different (just as every adult's metabolism is different). And only your baby knows what is best for them.
I agree that babies with mothers who work can try to make up for time with extra nursings. They will sometimes need extra nursings during periods of teething and developmental spurts.
Keep doing what you are doing. If you need additional ammunition tell her that your pediatrician thinks you're doing everything perfectly!
My dd was still waking about once or twice per night to nurse at 6 months. I think if we had co-slept she probably would have nursed even more frequently - you didn't mention if you co-slept or not. I know that a lot of co-sleeping babies nurse in little bits on and off all night, which isn't much trouble for mama because she barely has to wake up!
Don't cave in to all the pressure. Keep in mind that most people define a "good baby" by how little attention he/she needs, so waking at night, wanting to be held a lot, etc., are all looked upon as problems rather than normal behavior by the general population!
Read Meredith Small's "Our Babies, Our Selves" for a great perspective on "normal"!
We will continue to co-sleep at least until dd sleeps through the night because its soooo much easier. I don't have to get up, she never fully wakes up and everyone sleeps peacefully. I was worried about how dh was taking it but he said "Ella is like my morning cup of coffe" She wakes up in such a good mood and is able to get dh out of bed earlier and happier than I ever could.
But I guess that's the thing... is she not sleeping BECAUSE we're co-sleeping or are we co-sleeping because she's not sleeping? The chicken or the egg? And does it even matter???
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
Every baby is different, and this is just one of many phases in her young life. My DD slept through the night at just under three months - only on BM! Then she didn't for a while, then she did again, . . then didn't . . . .so, she's a baby and still needs me. Is that so wrong? I don't think so!
mommy to Greta 3/14/02
You're doing GREAT
|Originally posted by gretasmommy
Why not simply reply "She's sleeping wonderfully!", to all of your well-intentioned relatives? Then quickly change the subject. It's your business, not theirs!
Hang in there and hold your ground! Indeed, it would seem by this thread (and many others like it), that you have MUCHO support on this.
My DS is two and still nightwakes. We have not night weaned but have VERY recently worked with him on putting himself to sleep, which to our surprise and delight, he is doing quite happily. This has improved his nightwaking as well but he still does wake once or twice per night. I find this to be rather manageable.
It's all in how you look at it and what you feel is normal for your baby, yourself, your family. Nightwaking is much more common than anyone wants to admit. If you are not bothered by it, than no one else should be. I found that by avoiding this subject altogether around others was the only way to go. No matter what I had to say about, it was always construed as complaining hence, the unwanted advice came on.
We are very comfortable and proud that he is two and now starting to sleep better on his own terms. We were not comfortable in rushing this and frankly, I wouldn't trade all of our precious nights together for anything... not even for two years made up sleep.
Best to you.
|Originally posted by Jane
TOTALLY normal....It's so frustrating when relatives/friends who know little or nothing about breastfeeding and co-sleeping offer unsolicited advice!
Get this: One night when DS was about 9 months old and his grandparents were visiting - I'll stop here and qualify that I adore my MIL - my DH crawls into bed with DS and I. We're lying there talking about co-sleeping and such, and DH says "Well, it's time that he slept through the night now. Babies his age don't need to nurse at night." Said with such authority for a man who has never had a baby before or even been around them much.
"Who told you that?" I ask, knowing full well it was my MIL who was reading in the next room.
"No one." (sheepish)
"Well, whoever it was probably hasn't had a baby in, oh, 40 years, and I'm going to guess she didn't breastfeed."
That was the end of that conversation.
Other than DH, I don't mention co-sleeping, nursing, pumping, discipline, food choices, or anything that might seem controversial to my very mainstream family......
When you work, baby nurses more at night: check
Cereal fills up baby: right
I have a 13-month old who was nursing once a night at 10 weeks until I returned to work and - BAM! - back to several times a night. Anywhere from 2 to a zillion times (I stop counting at 5!) a night.
You are absolutely, positively normal. And you're doing great!
Anyway, you have plenty of support here that it is normal. Cereal has not been proven to help a child sleep. They will sleep through when they are ready. Some kids are earlier than others, some are later. It's what is right for you.
Sigh...I get asked that all of the time. DD does sleep most nights, but when she's sick, she'll get up once or twice for a nip and that's ok...That's what she needs...
Thanks for all the support here. I really needed it.
My son is 11 moths and is just now beginning to sleep the night, but some nigths he is not.
Yes, I have also heard, that some babies want to make up, for lost time with mama. Nothing better than mama.
Tell your MIL that it is just fine with you and that you injoy your little nursing time at night.