I don't believe in the gateway theory at all; it's like saying that milk leads to alcoholism because every alcoholic started on milk. I know that virtually nobody starts her drug career with heroin, but even drinking beer will not simply lead to stashes of Johnny Walker in the cupboard.
I do believe in the separation of pot (and maybe a few others) and other street drugs though. As is pretty well known around here, I'm from a place where pot is legal, and this means that it's used and sold in a circuit separate from other drugs. The consequence is that your pot dealer usually has no easy access to heroin or meth or whatever, so won't try to sell it either.
Also, I've often seen that pot is really mellower. When I walk in Amsterdam at night, the big guy in the alley is more likely to ask for a big cigarette paper than wave a knife. I have NEVER felt threatened there, but in US cities I have several times (not often though. Being 6'1" helps
I also believe that using many other drugs points at a problem. I've done most street drugs
(btw, not while in HOlland, but in countries where everything was illegal), and my and many others' experiences guide me to believe that "feel good" drugs like pot and xtc are often used for purely recreational purposes, but "speedy" drugs hint at an underlying problem.
If my children use "speedy" drugs, I'd be alarmed. And I'd know that, if they did it in secret, I'd be part of the problem that makes them do it, even if just by my emotional absence that would have led them to drugs instead of me. I'm not going to restrict pot. If addiction is genetic, my children will be sensitive to it, and I'd rather be able to help them make decisions about what to do. I hope that if she wants to smoke pot, she'll do it in our living room, so I know what's going on. I started drugs to rebel, my children will have to rebel by voting Republican
Sorry for the lousy grammar. Many interruptions.
Oh, and the ad this thread started with? Puhleezzee.... NOw I know why men aren't really considered responsible for unwanted pregnancies. It's not them, but the pot that makes women pg... "No, mom, I didn't have sex. It was an immarijuanate conception."
And Megan, if I were your sil's daughter, I'd get the he!! out of there, too.