So, they are always talking about it. Now mind you that in their parenting you never see evidence of it. But one ladies 9.5 month old jsut sits perfect in her high chair. She never moves except to open her mouth and never touches her food. Ezzo teaching. They are insisting everyone say Miss or Mr. Which isn't only an Ezzo thing but a pretty big one in their book. I HATE being called Miss Megan or even Mrs. Moore!
Luckily, they have noticed several flaws in the method. But to me the most astonishing part is that it is SO biblically WRONG! And they are still teaching it!
I'll be glad when that stupid class is over!!
Thanks for letting me vent! BTW...they've never said anything about how we raise Tracy...not to my face at least!
I hear you!
I can't stand the idea that people believe Ezzo is the *Christian* way of doing things. Do they honestly believe Jesus would let his children CIO and would spank them? I just don't understand how you can reconcile that with Jesus' example of DEMONSTRATING and gently guiding. It makes NO logical sense.
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Of all the crap ezzo spews that is the point I take issue with the most.
I can imagne you feel pretty uncomfortable rocking the boat when you have just started at that job. next time the class comes around though (and sadly enough there probably will be a next time ) you will be ready. I agree leave the flyers, maybe buy a few AP books (Sears as a great Christian Parenting one) for the church library - or recommend them innocently enough to the powers that be. In the mean time just keep being a good example by your actions. I am so thankful that there isn't a single person on our church staff who doesn't think Ezzo is a complete lunatic.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
Every Doctor I have spoken to is against anything EZZO. Do print out the info and take it to your church. Even Dr. Dobson is stongly opposed to the EZZO crap!!
Noah has rarely CIO, usually only when I have been on the verge of breaking. As compared to Joshua who CIO everynight
Tal about not helping improve my PPD. Anyway he is crap. I now hide the books when in the book store, although I really like the idea of also leaving the pamphlets
Anyway do whatever you can to make converts. And keep your eyes open for ptential abuse. I personally feel abuse could run rampant with his style. He advocates hand slapping from 8mo+ and is all about the parent being in utter control, and when that authority is challenged the parent needs to address the situation with whatever means possible..first reprimanding, then handslapping and finally isolateing in crib. And forcing nap if anywhere near naptime. Althoug he doesn't specifically advocate spanking, he definitely leaves it open, or at least makes a parent feel it is neccessary to straighten out a child. This is where the abuse could easily come into play. HE hasn't given parents the tools needed to work with the child. so a hand slap can easily escalate into a swat, and the leg, and then a real spanking. All of which could seriously injure a young child, especially 2-3 yr or under. Keep your eyes open. I beleive it is our responsibliity to report abuse, regardless of how difficult it is on us. Sorry to be rambling as you can tell I H his junk.
I skimmed onea nd was like, yeah, right. It was so ridiculous and horrible. My mom pushed me in the beginning to get ds on a schedule, let him CIO, because that's what she did with me and my brothers.
But I couldn't stand hearing him cry. At all. So, instinctively, I went to him, and held him or fed him or sang to him. And he has never been on a schedule. He would never go on one, and I knew that from the beginning. I could tell. I ignored all the talk from my mom, and others that I was spoiling him or letting him run my life.
It's so funny to me now. My parents say they are praying for me that I will learn to discipline, stop letting my kids run my life. Blah, blah, blah. I love when they say stuff like that because it tells me I am doing everything right.
I tell others, whenever I can to run away from anything with Babywise or EZZO in it.
I thought about going just to be a voice of sanity in the group, but then decided that I just didn't have the energy to go up against that. I feel too fragile spiritually, and I *need* to a church group that I can get something out of too, you know? Argh. Its all such dangerous garbage.
It just breaks my heart that this miserable, nasty, selfish material is taught in churches as "G-d's Way".
What church are you going to??
As I was reading the recent posts, it dawned on me why our adminstrative support person and I disagree so much when we talk about her neices and my son. Her sister does the Babywise stuff! Her husband is the worst offender though. He is the one that insists on schedules, CIO, weaning,etc.
I was very sad when I heard that under no circumstances is any of the girls allowed to sleep with mom and dad or even a sibling. You have your own bed. Sure Sam kicks us out of bed every night, but waking up in the middle of the night and seeing the whole family sleeping is so comforting. Somedays I don't think I can sleep until I have smelled Sam's hair.
I really feel sorry for all those children. They must feel as though something is missing.
What is truely sad is these children are being deprived of the attachment and intimacy they need.
What isn't filled in its own order becomes an unhealthy need later on in life.
It won't suprise me if these girls become sexually active because of their craving for physical closeness.
Just makes me so sad.
Dh is very upfront of not approving. We have not been asked to join the group even though it is all couples our age with young children. Which is good, cause I think they know we don't agree. I still spend time with the parents and put in my semi-ap ways (the ones I actually do/ agree with ) I've never been secretive about it.
Of course if they ever offer the class again dh is going to bring it up in a leadership meeting that it is NOT appropriate for more than just discipline reasons but for scriptural reasons!