This is Dh and me in bed with Dd, as she's falling asleep. Most nights I'm alone with her. We have an office in the home and Dh is out a lot during the week working. After lights go out most nights, he goes to the office and does paperwork for about an hour. Dd falls asleep pretty quickly after nursing awhile with intermittent making of various rounds around the bed, moving stuffed animals, arranging pillows, etc.
She asks for water once, which I honor, but I don't get out of bed a second time, because I keep her water cup on a counter by the window, and after the first request for water, the following requests are to look out the window. I expain, "window tomorrow, sleep now." She understands that. She does not aske me to get out of bed agian since the first few times when I explained "living room tomorrow, sleep now." Then I'm very quiet and minimally conversational.
The few nights Dh is in the bed he talks lots. Every time she seems to be falling asleep, he says, "goodnight," and she pops up again. She goes to him for requests for water because he will take her to the window and watch cars for awhile. It takes longer for her to fall asleep those nights, and I'm just so tired sometimes I want to scream.
Last night was the worst. Dd tried to pull me up to carry her somewhere, which she hasn't done in a long time. When I said, "living room tomorrow, sleep now," she went to Dh. He got up and took her to a bedroom window to watch cars. As soon as he got back to bed with her, the crying started.
They made 6 trips to the window, crying worse after each return to bed, Dh taking her to the window because he couldn't stand the crying. And the "more, more!" I did my best to nicely explain that she does understand bedtime and each trip to the window would just make her want more - even more. But to Dh I'm just a party pooper.
I only make a big deal about it because Dd is so great at going to bed. Now I think Dh is creating a situation where she'll think the party is just starting, at least when he's around. We're talking about TTC sometime in the next few months, and I feel like Dd should be getting less and less steps to bedtime, not more and more.
Am I worrying about nothing? Will a few nights of Dad's party ruin her excellent sleep habits? How can I talk to Dh about this without sounding like a controlling shrew?
I'm trying to give them more daytime playtime together so that he doesn't feel like night is the only opportunity. Even then I sound like a controlling shrew, urging him off the computer or to awaken from a daytime nap when she's ready to play. Today I announced I was going to the office to do my paperwork and here I am. Problem is if I stay around, Dd hangs on me. Dh said I should hurry back! But then this goes back tot he cycle of him feeling like he has so little fun time with Dd.
She asks for water once, which I honor, but I don't get out of bed a second time, because I keep her water cup on a counter by the window, and after the first request for water, the following requests are to look out the window. I expain, "window tomorrow, sleep now." She understands that. She does not aske me to get out of bed agian since the first few times when I explained "living room tomorrow, sleep now." Then I'm very quiet and minimally conversational.
The few nights Dh is in the bed he talks lots. Every time she seems to be falling asleep, he says, "goodnight," and she pops up again. She goes to him for requests for water because he will take her to the window and watch cars for awhile. It takes longer for her to fall asleep those nights, and I'm just so tired sometimes I want to scream.
Last night was the worst. Dd tried to pull me up to carry her somewhere, which she hasn't done in a long time. When I said, "living room tomorrow, sleep now," she went to Dh. He got up and took her to a bedroom window to watch cars. As soon as he got back to bed with her, the crying started.
They made 6 trips to the window, crying worse after each return to bed, Dh taking her to the window because he couldn't stand the crying. And the "more, more!" I did my best to nicely explain that she does understand bedtime and each trip to the window would just make her want more - even more. But to Dh I'm just a party pooper.
I only make a big deal about it because Dd is so great at going to bed. Now I think Dh is creating a situation where she'll think the party is just starting, at least when he's around. We're talking about TTC sometime in the next few months, and I feel like Dd should be getting less and less steps to bedtime, not more and more.
Am I worrying about nothing? Will a few nights of Dad's party ruin her excellent sleep habits? How can I talk to Dh about this without sounding like a controlling shrew?
I'm trying to give them more daytime playtime together so that he doesn't feel like night is the only opportunity. Even then I sound like a controlling shrew, urging him off the computer or to awaken from a daytime nap when she's ready to play. Today I announced I was going to the office to do my paperwork and here I am. Problem is if I stay around, Dd hangs on me. Dh said I should hurry back! But then this goes back tot he cycle of him feeling like he has so little fun time with Dd.