I have to vacuum, wash dishes, clean the toy room, wipe down my counter, clean my bedroom, cook, etc etc DAILY... somethings multiple times during the day...
I can't be the only person who cleans (etc) every day...
I don't want them to watch TV while I do these things, but at 2 and 4, I don't know what else they would want to do (that wouldn't make ANOTHER large mess for me to clean)...
What do you lovely ladies do with your children, or what do the children do with themselves, while you take care of daily chores around the house, and for yourself???
Ds#1 helps me with toy clean up.
I fold laundry while the kids play in the living room.
I empty the dishwasher/ do the dishes when the boys are eating lunch.
the baby always quiets to the vacuum, the older girls play a game I started where I pretend I'm going to get them and they scream and jump on the couch (keeps them up out of the way and not making messes)
the baby sits in her bouncy on the counter (I try to load and unload the dishwasher in the a.m. while she's in a happy mood to just look about) and I admit, DD1 and 2 watch T.V. in the a.m. first thing
clean the toy room-
my girls always have to clean whatever room we leave w/me. that way there is only one room in total chaos at a time.
wipe down my counter-
I let DD1 and 2 help wipe things up w/their own papertowel or washcloth or wipe
clean my bedroom-
I do it when they're in bed (we co-sleep in our house about 3-5am when DD1 and 3 join me in my room )
baby sits in her bouncy on the kitchen counter or the swing and DD1 and 2 either "help" (stirring, sprinkling cheese, etc.) or sit at the kitchen table coloring or snacking while I cook.
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he loves to help do dishes and is really a joy to have help even though it make take us all day to clean....
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dd2 (3 months) is either in the sling or the swing, depending on what i'm doing. dd1 (2 1/2 years) is helping me! she'll open the dryer door, i'll pass her stuff from the washer, and she'll put it in. she'll take from the dryer into the basket. when we vacuum she holds the cord etc.....
she washes dishes (i.e. the whole kitchen)...sweeps, she's got her own child size mop - was a gift, and she likes helping mommy. often it's more a hinderance than a help, but this is how they learn.
Kailey loves to help me make the bed, and sometimes she gets interested enough to help me clean the rest of the house.
OK, just kidding, kind of. I can't say my house is dirty, but I don't do much to it. I had cleaning ladies until last week when I canceled so I can put that money towards staying at home FT. I just do it in VERY small chunks. And I usually wait for dh to be home.
First of all I wait till the baby is asleep, shes only 5 weeks old, so that is pretty often. If theres something that needs done while she is awake (shes alwaysup when it is time to cook and eat dinner) she goes in her bouncy chair or watches her mobile (both of which she loves, but I feel like I am neglecting her) My other daughter is 3.5 and she can be a handful, but she does play pretty well by herself and she is learning to read so books and paper/crayons always keep her occupied for a while) Or she helps me clean. when I vaccum the dining room, I move all of the chairs into the kitchen double file and she pretends she is on a train. We don't have a TV so sometimes I find myself wishing I could just pop a movie in for her, but I think bc of lack of TV, she has become better at entertaining herself.
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He loves taken and putting dishes in the dish wash (doubt when he is a teenager). Right there to watch the toilet being cleaned. Of coarse the bath has all that running water to play with while cleaning.
Now if only I can get him to LOVE laundry since its my most hatest chore.
I really should take the time to show the oldest how to clean the bathroom. It's one thing I'd like to clean 2x a week and never manage to. If he could do it once (even not-so-great), I could live with me doing it once.
He can sweep and push the vacuum though I don't expect a great job or for him to move furniture. We don't have a hamper and the laundry baskets are always full of CLEAN clothes (that's one thing I let slide...I don't know why the hell we have dressers) so he takes dirty laundry downstairs for me.
I've also had him wash walls and the kitchen chairs.
DH can't fold clothes, but he can change loads of laundry for me.
I know DD (5yo) could do more...I just haven't shown her. She could dust and she can pick things up. She can help wipe off cupboards. She does the low ones and DS1 does the high ones.
But I don't do things daily. I WOH and they're usually at daycare so it doesn't get messy enough to do things every day...and if it somehow does, it doesn't matter. None of us will be home tomorrow anyway!
The state of my house during maternity leave is nearly killing me, though. I wish I had $ for someone to come clean a couple times before I go back to work.
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The younger one is in the "helping" stage now. He especially likes to "mop."
So this is how most days go. Somedays, he's not in the mood to help but it's usually because he's engrossed in something else--his trucks, his farm, etc. If need to tackle something alone, I usually tell him so and then give him two choices of activities, he's usually pretty good about it. I do find that by making sure to spend some good solid one on one time with him each day, that allows some time for me to get things done--either with his help or not.
From as early on as I could (about a year, walking), I tried not to get into the habit of doing all the cleaning myself. I truly feel that one job a parent has is to teach our kids how to take care of themselves... learning things about the house is as good a place to start as I can think of.
A note: There are some days when DS needs my full attention; if he's not feeling well, teething or just needing me. On those days, I try to put aside the clean house and just focus on him. Once, he's beyond whatever it is that's ailing him, I get back to the usual routine. I've found through trial and error that pushing on at his emotional expense is not worth it and hard on us both.
Best of luck!
At this minute, he is napping (I should be) and I am finally taking some time to do something enjoyable for me. Mothering.com.
I usually go to bed within an hour of him and he goes around 900pm.
~Laundry: he has his own basket, takes clothes from the clean ones, dumps them in and out, etc.
~Vacuuming: he gets an extension and a little attachment bag. Takes attachments out, tries them on, etc. Pretends to vacuum the walls, couch, etc. Or, he just runs around screaming happily to burn off steam and be noisy. I don't mind, it's not like I can hear it!
~Bathrooms: I do reserve this activity for after bathtime when dh is dressing him, reading books, etc.
~Dusting/wiping, etc: He gets a spray bottle of water and a towel.
~Sweeping/mopping: Same, thing, he has his own stuff and just does what I do!
They also help. They know our motto is "You have to clean up one mess before you make another" so they'll run around putting stuff away to get out the next mess.
I wrote up some stuff that works for us here, too: http://www.magicalchildhood.com/articles/tornado.htm
Some of the ideas would have June Cleaver doing shots though.
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Major ideas we use are the "Clean Sink" from FlyLady and "Single Minded Motion" from Confessions. [Clutter one was mostly motivational for me FYI] And I have a calendar of things to do and if some thing is on another day it STAYS there. This helps me see my "Free Time" easier.
Taylor is very helpful and loves to cook, do dishes, sweep or vacum, and put away laundry. But only when he feels in the mood. Otherwise I get things done in 5-10 min batches while we play etc. Often things "sit" undone for a good long while tho.
If I have to do something major, I usually hired a "mommy's helper," a teenager that can play with the kids while I clean the bathrooms for example.
If I have to dust, my 5 year old and I pretend that we are "Cinderellas." We pretend that the mean stepmother is making us dust and call each other Cinderella. I give her a piece of cloth without cleaning solution and we dust happily. It's one of her favorite games