|Originally posted by tara
Wow. Must be nice to feel 100% good about all your parenting choices, Tabitha! I certainly don't, and I doubt I am unusual. Life is uncertain, complex and challenging, and parenting is one crazy winding road. All of my parenting decisions are thought out and based on my gut, my instincts and sometimes research, and still are uncertain much of the time. Maybe I'm just not as smart as you.
I did not say i was usual, or that not feeling sure is unusual. Why cant a person just post their situation? I genuinely feel that there is a large misconception that 1st time moms are usually unsure, or need a lot of guidance, or that moms of more than one don't, and i think both are misconceptions- i was only using myself as an example. i have friends who are also "exceptions" to the "misconception" of 1st timemom=unsure of her decisions, maybe if i had used one of them as an example...?
It is not "nice" or unpleasant to feel strongly and sure about my decisions, it is just the way it is. I would never profess that it is due to intelligence. Every person is different. I did not magically become this way with decisions in pregnancy- i have always desired that should i make a decision, i be comfortable with it. very comfortable. especially when it is very important.
i think everyone is capable of choosing to approach life in this way, should they desire, just as i am likely capable of choosing to operate differently, though i wouldn't as i'm doing fine this way.
i am confident that if i approach every decision with an open heart and mind, and listen to my conscience as well, i will make healthy decisions that are good for me, my baby, and the world- not just on the short-term, but long term. it may sound "cocky" but it is true. and i don't write this to show off or look "smart", it is simply a truth about myself.
i hope, tara, as well as all reading this thread, that my posts are not offensive, since that could only mean that i am offensive as a person, laying myself bare here before you without attitude.