I work out of the home, and though dh and I juggle also to be home with dd, the times that it is not possible, I have chosen to pay an extra 15$/day to have a home away from home. I did not work for dd's first 2 yrs, we still co-sleep (well, she starts in her own bed....), but I lay with her every night for her to fall asleep.
My mother has said on a few occasions, that it's hard to have dd over for sleep overs, because she can't sleep with a child
: , and also, people always tell me I really should stop laying with her.
Whatever. It's our parenting style, sah, woh, wah, we all choose our style, our intention is gentle parenting. If others' are defensive, it may be that they feel we look down on them or something, for not doing things the same...I sincerely believe that we all make decisions that are for us...personally, the whole reason I co-slept was out of laziness, or convienience...I thought, why wake up to a crying baby, or wake up at all, when all I have to do is roll over, when the baby starts sighing...(you know, that hungry sigh that you hear so well?)...it resulted in the most beautiful bonding experience ever, and I'm looking forward to this next babe sharing our bed!!!
Anyway, try not to let comments like your mom phaze you...really, you are an amazing parent!