Mods - I'm not sure where to put this thread. It sort of has to do with SAHMing, but also WAHMing, but also about introverts Moms and extrovert kids and how that combo affects us as Mothers. So, I'll just start writing it, and maybe you all can figure out if it's in the right place!
Here's the thing. I have a 3.8 year old DD and a 16 month old DD. When DD#1 was born, I was working 60 hours a week on my brand-new business, and DH was working 60 hours a week on his well-established business and life was insane. We hired a live-in nanny to help us. After 18 months, I closed my business, realizing that I really wanted to spend a lot more time with DD#1 and also get ready for DD#2. And my business was sucking the life out of me and not getting anywhere. It was a far better financial decision for me to quit and DH to continue working.
However, we kept the nanny on PT (25 hours a week), because I was a little worried about the transition to SAHM. I really wasn't sure I could handle it alone, but I really didn't know why. I just had this "gut feeling" that it was going to be hard for me.
Even having help (and our nanny has been more like a mother's helper at times), I still felt overwhelmed by being a Mom and even more so the idea of being a full-on SAHM. That is why I just didn't do it right away.
Lately, I've really been wanting to work again. I love my girls, but I cannot figure this out, why I want to go back to work so much - and then one day, I read a comment on the boards about introverts and extroverts and something hit me! (We need a "lightbulb" smilie!) This Mom was talking about being an introvert with an extrovert child and how difficult it was to find time to re-charge during the day. Her DD was just
. If you know some about introverts, you know that they really need alone time to re-charge.
Well, THAT WAS ME!!! To a "T"... My DD#1 was extremely extroverted and I am extremely introverted, and being with her all the time was daunting, to say the least. Even just having to care for a baby who needs constant attention was overwhelming. And after reading that, I started wondering about the correlation between being an introvert Mom and having a hard time accepting being a SAHM - because the children are with you all the time and I was thinking that could be very overwhelming to an introvert.
What do you all think of my crazy thoughts here? Do you think there is any validity to it? I would be soooo happy to think that my not wanting to SAH is not because I don't like my girls, but more about needing time to re-charge and do some work that re-charges me. My occupation is a dressmaker - and it is a very solitary occupation. I LOVE IT. It's quiet and peaceful, and I accomplish beautiful things by doing it. But the biggest thing is - I don't have to work with a lot of people. I could never be a salesperson, for example, or even work in an office with many other co-workers. (Just to clarify - my other business when DD#1 was born was not dressmaking, but related to it.)
Anyway, I hope this sort of makes sense. I'd love to hear what you all think - and I really, really want to be clear - I am NOT starting this thread for a SAHM/WAHM debate! So, if that is what you want to do, go somewhere else, please!
I just want to talk about the idea of introverted Moms and how they relate to their extroverted kids and if being an introvert Mom makes you really want to get away from your kids sometimes, even to the point to wanting to get a job to get out of the house!