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#1 of 9 Old 03-24-2003, 10:58 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Some of you may remember my post about my sil being very "un-mothering" and very cold to my 2 y/o nephew..she is very detached and hates the fact that he is so "needy" and she is all about her time and not him.
Well, she and my brother were at my mother's and proceeded to tell us another "story" about how she was trying to cut her son's hair.
She was laughing when she told this story just cracking herself up .....
She says "so I put ds in the high chair to cut his hair the other day and he was so upset and mad that he was flinging himself back and forth in the chair like this"...and she made this crazy neck jerking motion....
then she says "so I made my dh hold him and I grabbed the clippers and cut away and by the time we were done he was so mad he was going ..." and she made the catch your breath, stutter cry you make when you are so upset you can't get a grip...
Laughing and smiling thinking it was just the funniest thing...
My mom and I both had our mouths open to the floor and she finally quit laughing when she noticed we were not.....

It just amazes me....
......amazing.....

why would you even force the issue..gimme a break....

The never ending heart breaking story of my poor nephew and his mother

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This woman has issues....deep issues.

i am probably the most mainstream conservative mommy on this board (or one of them!), but that makes me sick. whats even sicker is her apparent amusement at her own childs emotions.
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What about your brother? Where is he in all this. Seems like you weren't raised that way so what does he think about her parenting "style"?
I feel so bad for your poor nephew

Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?
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That's so incredibly sad

Has anyone ever just flat out asked her if she realizes that her child is a human being? Really, it seems as though she considers him to be something else other than human....

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Just hang in there for your nephew and give him all the love you can, he sure does need it. It is sad the emotional state of some people, I pity to think how she was raised
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what is this woman's problem??? ugh
I remember your other post awhile back and thought the same thing, could your mother get custody of him and possibly raise him!

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You guys, I know what you all mean about my sil...and as for my brother, he knows how I feel and I know deep down he does not approve but sil has this "hold" if you will over him and when she is around my brother, he is lucky if he can talk and when they do come to family functions she always corners my brother and turns her back on her son(she must think since so many are around that someone will look after him) and we hardly get to talk to just my brother....

I don't know..all I know is tension is high when she is around because she is so not right as a parent....all she talks about is $$$$$$$ and how much she makes and how broke my brother makes her(She is a hairdresser and has her own booth and my brother likes to buy classic cars and fix them up-he does work and has a good paying job).
On my brothers only days off she alomst always leaves my nephew with my brother and is gone doing this or that and never just stays home and hangs with my brother and her son.
I guess it is true, the more you are away the easier it gets to not become attached at all ....

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Wow.

I have been away for a while and just stopped in briefly tonight. That is so sad. She is emotionally abusive to her son... I know you will be a source for love for this little one. He needs you!

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