Originally Posted by mommaof3
I'm so curious what you mean by this - and hope I'm not offending by asking?
No offense taken. My DH and I believe that every child is a gift from God. And that He will only give us what He chooses. So we trust Him implicitly by not TRYING to get pg, neither are we trying to NOT get pg.
That said, I have always desired a dozen children (from the time I was 12) and that has never changed. However over the few years and our long journey, I have come to realize that I would be just as happy to just have the ones I already have.
So I am content to have only my six, just as I would be content to have six more (not at the same time though!)
We call ourselves QuiverFull, however, I find that many QF couples feel it necessary to TTC as many children as they can. We just don't believe that (and never have).
So, we act out our faith by NOT using birth-control, by choice, and NOT 'timing' things one way or another. We just do what comes natural, enjoying the bond of husband and wife with no worries of if I will become pg or not.
(And no, I am not Mormon or Catholic.)
I do get asked that a lot. It is just a personal belief between my DH, myself, and our God.
You see. We trust God for every other aspect of our lives; our finances, our health, our home, our cars, our food. We could not very well take this one area back from Him and say we would not trust Him in that area. And to be quite frank, most of the arguments that are used for limiting the number of children you have are identical to the arguments used to justify abortion. And that is against our beliefs.
And to top it off, we feel that children are a blessing. And that each child is a unique individual. How could we choose to reject a child that was 'destined' to be ours. It is not delay-able. For each sperm and egg combo is unique and creates a unique life. If we choose to delay a baby, we could very likely be passing up a child that could have changed the world, and there are no second chances. Sure, you can have another one later, but it will never be the one you passed up. And I see the face of each and every one of my children and think of what would have been if we had stopped at two, or three, or five, or seven. I think of which of my children would I willingly forgo, and the answer is abundantly clear. Not a single one would I ever be willing to give up. And I don't want to bypass one I have not seen or held yet either.
Boy, I did not mean to write a book!
I guess I am just very passionate about it (though I do not judge anyone else for their choices). There is a little saying that my e-mail group passes around all the time, it goes like this:The Bible calls debt a curse and children a blessing.
In our culture we apply for a curse and reject a blessing.
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I just love that saying. It speaks my heart.