There must have been something going on in the "universe" yesterday, cause I too really, really lost my cool!
Dd has been sick, but was feeling better (or so I thought) yesterday, so we went to town to get groceries. No problems there, the problem was on the drive home....she whinned that awful awful whine all the way (45min drive
: )....I finally just lost it and yelled at her with some not so nice words, then I just lost it and cried and cried and yelled at myself for being such a bitch...etc....you know the talk right???
She fell asleep during my rant to myself....and looking at her in the rearview mirror, she looked so peaceful, that I couldn't stop crying for yelling at her. She was still sleeping when I got home, so I laid it out to dh.....he was a good listener atleast, but didnt say much except "everyone yells at there kids, I'm sure she forgot about it already".....then I thought of all of you....and that helped
....in my rant I asked for my inner voice to speak a little louder next time I am loosing my cool.....
Needless to say, we had a wonderful night last night....cuddled and today is looking like a good day too....I really feel better after my cry and rant, I just wish I handled it differently kwim?? Today though, when she whines, I've been telling her "mommy doesn't understand your whinny voice, talk nicely so I can understand"....and then I leave it at that....I use to continually say stop whinning over and over until I finally lost it (especially when she's in a whinny mood
I totally agree that alot of the problems are lack of help....I have made a great friend the last year, but all our family are far away, so no help there. Not to mention that the snow/cold was back this week, so that didn't help! Dh works 12 hour shifts...so he's gone 14 hours with the commute....and this past two weeks he's been on nights, so he sleeps when he's home....it sucks! I'm definately going to take advantage of the sun today though....and when dh is off this weekend too!
p.s. Thanks for listening! And thanks again for this post Bearsmama!