I'm also really petrified of bees. To the point of not being able to calm down and think rationally.
I'm trying to work through it and its tough because of the instantaneous PANIC reaction I have. I stopped using scented shampoos/conditioners/lotions/purfumes for a number of reasons, but it helps make me less stinky and interesting to the bugs for sure. I also tried to pinpoint what I am so scared about. Turns out, I really just want to keep the bug where I can see it. I have bad visions of the bee hovering near my ear and me accidentally swiping it with my hand and getting stung unexpectedly. So... now I can be seen in public calmly covering my ears, scrunching my neck up and gently swiping over my head to try to discourage the bee. I probably look like a freak, but at least I'm not hightailing it inside looking petrified with my heart racing anymore! Its also been helpful to use other relaxation techniques to keep me from getting too upset and panicked- deep, steady breathing, for example.
Mama to Raina (9/06) and Peter (8/09)!