Anyone else here, or have been here?
I had my son almost 3 years ago, and was living in a smallish, midwestern town. I was pretty young, a very unexpected pregnancy, but dh and I were excited and took parenting our new babe very seriously. I had never heard of a sling, knew 2 women who had ever breastfed, didn't know anyone who co-slept, etc.
I remember when ds was a few days old and napping in his crib. When he started making noise, I went in to go get him, and my mom said "let him be alone for a little while, it's good for them". I thought she *must* know what she's talking about
: , but went in to pick him up anyway, because that's what felt right. We ended up having him sleep with us every night since our first night home from the hospital (at 2 months, our mothers were very worried about this!) and breastfed for the first half year--not as long as I had planned, but others thought it was incredible.
As I've raised him, I've learned to trust my mother's instinct and to do what feels right that I'll remember with this next baby--holding often, responding to cries (we've always done that), breastfeeding, not circing, and doing what makes sense and what is best for the child but, for what ever reason, others often have a problem with. I've learned that others don't always have the answers, and that it is so important to trust yourself.
This time I will breastfeed my baby and use nothing else, no matter how many other people tell that they supplemented with their children and that it worked. I will not feel pressure to do stupid things like circumcise, and I will let him/her sleep with us for as long as they please. I'm excited about buying my first sling, probably a maya wrap, and holding my baby close all the time instead of lugging that damned car seat. AP just makes so much sense, and just feels right. I think it's partly about fully trusting yourself as a parent to do what is right, and in result having a connected child.
I am SO excited to have this baby, and to be the kind of parent that I want to be. Is anyone else planning to do it differently the second time around, or have you? What differences have you noticed?
Thanks for letting me share my story.