Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Bywater, West Farthing
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After speaking with an attachment therapist about the issues we were having with our recently-adopted child refusing to eat almost everything we served, we adopted a "here's the food, eat it or don't" approach. This worked very well. We didn't comment on what or how much she ate and the food battles almost completely disappeared.
Well, no good deed goes unpunished, right? When we were at the HIV doctor last week, he told us that, based on our daughter's most recent labs, she is deficient in several nutrients, two of them being calcium and iron. She refuses dairy products and green vegetables, in particular.
Now, I like to believe that children deserve freedom and autonomy in their eating, but I am not willing to let one of my children become malnourished for it. We spoke with the doc about giving her supplements and he said she needs the nutrition from FOOD, not supplements. He talked with her about this, we talked with her about this, but we are having huge food issues again. Her list of what she won't eat is a mile long, and she consistently refuses the vegetables that we serve her. Believe me, I have done everything I possibly can short of preparing traditional Ethiopian food every single night of the week (we usually eat it three times a week) to accomodate her likes and dislikes, but the simple fact is, she claims that she doesn't like so many foods that she is not getting enough variety to meet her nutritional needs.
We were driving today and I was trying to make a list of vegetables that she will eat. I came up with carrots (sometimes, other times she says she doesn't like them), cabbage, and eggplant, but only if it's fried. She won't eat broccoli, asparagus, artichokes, brussels sprouts, zucchini, squash, corn, peas, tomatoes (I know, they are a fruit), okra, spinach, collards (or any other type of greens), green beans, etc. The only veggies that I can remember her eating are carrots (sometimes), cabbage, and fried eggplant.
I am considering telling her that she can choose three or four foods that she absolutely will not eat and that, for the sake of her health, she has to eat whatever I serve if it's not one of those three or four foods.