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View Poll Results: How do you deal with drs. appts. and babies?
Take baby with me. 53 58.24%
Get DH/DP to stay home from work. 11 12.09%
Go on a Saturday or after hours. 3 3.30%
Get a sitter/childcare. 9 9.89%
I just don't go unless it's an emergency! 15 16.48%
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#1 of 32 Old 04-09-2003, 03:49 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Or the dentist, optometrist, whoever? I can't imagine taking my 8 month old active crawler with me for an eye exam or to have my teeth cleaned, but do I make dh take time off work? We don't have any childcare/sitters yet and quite frankly I'm not comfortable leaving him with anyone but dh yet.

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I don't go to the doctor. If I had to go I would schedule it on dh's day off or have my in laws come out to watch ds if that was not a possibility. I did have my anual done in October and I just scheduled it in MILs town and left him with her while I went.
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i get an appointment that's either really early or really late and have dh come with me to care for ds. We don't have any nearby family to help. I do go to regular appointments for well checkups and dental cleanings.
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I didn't vote cause I will usually schedule any appt when dh is off...or take babe with me depending on what it's for.
My last couple dr's appt I've brought dd with me....for my last u/s I scheduled it for when dh was off.

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For dental stuff, dh and I have always made appts together so that we can trade off. As for the other visits, one of the best decisions that I have made was to have our family Dr deliver my baby on the way- so he sees me, and takes care of my pregnancy, and sees dd. Between my ob checkups and a recent crisis with dd and a hand injury, we've been to the clinic probably ten times int helast two months or so. : But they are really good with her, and are used to having little ones running around. In fact, I was there today for a combination ob check and well baby check for dd, and they got to witness one of her full-blown tantrums, and the Dr just smiled at me and kept talking while we figured it out.

Now if there was a time where dh was home and it was a check up for just me, I would probably leave her home with him, but it hasn't been a huge issue up till now.

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I get my eyes checked alone, and I go for my pap alone, otherwise the kids are with me.
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I bring the whole brood!

Of course by this time, my docs expect nothing less from me, and get concerned when I show up with only one or two. If it's something like the dds, dh and I get back to back appts and switch off in the waiting room. for the reg doc, well, he just works around them. And the OB/GYN? Ask me how many internals I've had with two kids on my belly and one craining her neck to see what the doc's doing!

I'm just sorta like that, though. . . If I'm gonna arrange for a sitter, DH and I are getting dinner out of the deal. . .
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It just depends. I always find a sitter for my porenatals. That is just me time internal exams definitely require a sitter. I wouldn't take themto the dentist with me. but for all other appointments it is thw hole gang.

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The chiro we go to just calls in one of the office ladies to hold ds. Works well. He's kind of weird (the doc), but he's all smiles to ds. It's nice to see them interact, it has given me a new perspective on him.
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This is so sad

I dont go to the doctor unless I am falling down sick. I just dont have anyone to care for my kids and I dont want my husband taking off work unless its really important. I have actually fallen out from illness. And the dentist, who the hell is that? do they clean teeth? The last time I went was four years ago.
I've had to go to the hospital twice in the middle of the night for IVs for dehydration. My sister took me. Next week I get to go to the ob/gyn for my annual because my mother in law will be in town. They are probably going to ask me what took me so long.
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we go to a family practice so sometimes i take my dds w/me to the dr office. mostly i'd get mil to watch the girls though if it was an advance appt (like my obgyn visits were).

i've also taken dd1 to the dentist w/me to get her comfy w/it. but she's been at least 2yo at those visits and our dentist was nice and let her sit on my lap to watch.

mostly i get mil to watch the girls. i'm lucky to have her

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I voted that I just don't go, but in reality, I need my teeth cleaned. I am lucky that DH works 2nd shift, so I can go to the dr, dentist, etc. before he leaves for work, if I need to.
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I voted take her with me, because thats what I do when I go to the doctor. I let her sit in her stroller while I get examed. If I need to go to the dentist though, DF stays home from work. We're lucky that he has a job where he can take time off when he needs to.
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I take both girls with me most of the time. Dh has a weird schedule so I couldn't make appts. around it. Sometimes dd1
will want to go to the sitters but she usually doesn't. My BIL live 5 mins. away but I only asked them to watch dd1 once for a dr. visit. I had to go to the ER before my appendix burst and I brought the baby with me, stroller, diaper bag and all. I think the dr. thought I was playing it up till he saw my appendix was leaking/about to burst. then he and the nurses all wondered how I drove myself in with dd2 and made it in with the stroller and bag.

Funny sidenote- Dd2 nursed while I was waiting to be seen by the surgeon. The dr. walks in, doesn't notice and turns 8 shades of red when I pull her out from under the sheet. He asked if I needed him to leave...uumm,no what I need is a surgeon!
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Well before DD #1 was in school I brought both girls with me. Now I just bring my youngest. My midwife(who I go to for everything) gets very concerned if the girls aren't there. Her office loves having kids come with their mom's.
The only time I don't take them is if I am having a dental procedure(cap,root canal,etc) and that's because I HATE the dentist and don't want the girls to feel the same way.Then DH takes the time off.
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I'm still trying to figure this out myself. When DH was home, I would get him to stay with the baby, and luckily for my prenatel's my older DS was in school, so no worries there.

But, now that DH is in Korea, I don't have him to fall back on, and my family is now an hour away. I REALLY need to get to the optometrist(haven't gotten new glasses in about 4 years, and I need them badly) plus I could use a haircut. I can do the haircut on weekends, and have my mom or sister watch the boys, but the optometrist is a bit trickier, since not all of them are open on Saturdays.
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I take the babe with me.
After driving 50 miles to Somerville, Ma if a family member is available to watch ds I usually bring him there. Why sit in a drs office if you don't have to after a long drive? And the relative gets a visit!
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I take them with me. They have gone to all my prenatals - though the dr did ask my oldest ds, who is five, to leave the room for my initial internal. I really didn't care either way. We now see a midwife and she is great at talking to them and including them in what's she doing to me. I just bring lots of books and snacks to keep them occupied.

I've taken them to the dentist - I've even had my teeth cleaned while nursing one of my kids. The dentist was a nursing mother herself, so she couldn't have cared less.
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My husband and baby went with me for all of my many postnatal appointments. My husband's schedule is pretty flexible, and he's home most afternoons.

The last appointment I went to with ds was when he was 6 months old. He was nursing when the specialist came in for the consult. The doctor never skipped a beat! He smiled, then looked me in the eye and continued like he sees breastfed babies in his office every day. Maybe he does!

This is going to drive me nuts - what is the title for a doctor who specializes in kidney/renal?
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I think it depends on the situation and age of kids. I have never taken any kids to my dentist appts - how would you handle that? You are in the chair with them working in your mouth and kid is asking you questions or walking out of the room? Just not my gig. I try to schedule for lunchtime and have dh or my sister meet me at a restaurant near the dentist so he or she can eat with the kids til I'm done. If I tell the dentist this is what I'm doing, they can usually get me in and out in under an hour so dh or sister doesn't have to take any time off (other than regular lunch time that they would have anyway).

I also don't take kids with me to annual gyn checks. That is a little too private for me to have the kids checking out the bird's eye view - and same issue with the two year old, what if she tries walking out while my feet are in the stirrups? It is not the doc or nurses job to round up/babysit my kids IMO.

Dh always comes with me to midwife prenatal appts - and sometimes the kids come. They are welcome but I like the time to focus on the pregnancy.

I rarely pay a sitter to keep my kids for this type of thing but I have in a pinch. Usually I trade with my neighbor or another good friend - she'll watch mine and on another day I'll watch hers. That really works out well. Being a stay at home mom (for me) means that I need a little break - some time in the car or at an appt where I am not keeping track of them, if they are getting in the fish tank or whatever...
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I take my preschooler with me to prenatal/midwife visits and if I have a sinus infection or something like that and need to see the doctor. Otherwise I schedule appts for days when my husband is home - but that is easier for us because he has a day off every week (and he works every other weekend - he is a nurse) or I drop my preschooler off at my friends house.

I can not imagine taking a child with me to the dentist. Yikes! How could they manage to clean my teeth with a kid on my lap. That just doesn't even seem safe....

Can you imagine a man even wondering how to get to an appointment alone?? Geez - my husband would never dream of dragging kids with him to the doctor for an annual physical. This is the kind of inequality that goes so unmentioned in our culture - it makes me angry that women have so much to juggle and men have the luxury of not even having to consider such logistical challenges. Urgh - don't get me started!!!
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ebethmom, I went to a urologist for my kidney.

You should have seen me at my last pap smear. My doc got held up at the hospital so we had to wait in the waiting room for 45 minutes before we got called. My 4 1/2 year old ds was livid when all the other moms got to go in first. Then I had to wait in the exam room in that darn paper gown that has no sides for 45 more minutes. When the time came for the actual exam I made the boys come up by my head and sing with me. They see me naked all the time, but I didn't think they needed to see me spread eagle with steel instruments up my vagina.
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I didn't vote because I just drop dd off with my dh at work. There wasn't an option for that. He has an awesome job that allows dd to go hang out there whenever she wants. She goes there if I need to go to the dr, dentist, or eye dr. If I need to go to my midwife, I take dd. Dd goes to work with dh usually one afternoon each week, which gives me time to either clean or just hang out and relax. I know, I'm very lucky!
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Until he was about 2 we took him with us. Dr has/had a great play area where he could stay if he wanted or they just put me in the kid room.

But at 2.5 I seriously injured my arm and had to go to alot of dr apts. So I made a deal with a cousin to trade help and she watched Taylor every fri afternoon while I went to physical therapy etc.
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I take my son to some appointments, like when I had a sinus infection or strep throat. For my annual exam, I had my neighbor watch him. For the dentist, I put him in daycare. My husband is in the military and currently deployed, so he can't watch DS, and my family lives across the country, so that's not an option. He did surprisingly well the one time I put him in daycare - I think I was 100x more upset than he was.

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I agree. I have no sitter and don't trust anyone anyway.


I go on weekends or late hours when my husband can watch.


Once, he took the day off and we had dentist appts one after the other....and took turns watching.

No way you can bring a baby to the dentist (after they walk) and no way I'd have him around during a pap.

So it is weekends only here.

HARD to find one open on weekends. SO either that or have partner take day off work.
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My dh or my 76 year old father usually comes with me. Mine is now 9 months and I too wont do any of these activities without any help. I really need to have my hair trimmed...and I just have not been able to!
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For those of you who say you have no family to care for your children, what about other SAHM friends? I've left DS with a friend for my accupuncture appt (can't see bringing him with me for that! He'd want to pull the needles out!) I've brought DS to all my prenatal visits with my midwife, but the hospital midwife (I'm getting double care) is less fun for DS and I have a hard time with him there so ask DH to take the time off to watch him, or come with us. I have a regular therapy appt that I schedule on a day my mom has off so she can watch DS. I've never paid for childcare, other than returning the favor for another mom.

What do full-time working people do for their appts? I'm sure they can take time off. Then your partners should also be able to take time off for your appointments, I would think.
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I never usually go to the doctor at all, but after a freak accident that destroyed nerves in my hand and required subsequent surgery I take ds with me. I find that the dr. and my occupational therapist remember me because of ds, so I almost get MORE attention b/c I bring him with me!! I think my dr. will never forget me b/c I requested special anesthesioligist so I could bf right after surgery!
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i've only gone to for an annual, and ds was there with me lying on that darn table-but he was younger then, i think now i would have ot hold him down kicking and screaming ( he can crawl now) so i would now probably leave him with dh..i only trust dh
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