Believe it or not i have made my house a "yes" home. He is allowed to touch almost everything. He's shrieking because he is bored with the stuff at his level wants you to pick him up so he can explore things at the adult level.
He learned that adults are great forms of transportation. While we are holding him, he points to an item he sees at the adult level and wants us to bring him to it so he can play. So guess what he is pointing out? yup! the knife rack, the stove, the hot toaster oven, or outside when it is freezing rain. Even the best distractions don't work. He shrieks when i say, "not for baby, this is for baby" LOL!
I try to talk to him calmly like, " i know you wanted to play with the knifes and your mad that i won't let you. But it's dangerous, you can play with this though." but while he is shrieking or throwing a tantrum he's not hearing me. Kwim?
So should i tell him after he throws the tantrum? any suggestions?
Any creative ideas on how you tell your spirited little ones "no" or "not for baby?". I've tried words like, "hot", "dirty", "dangerous". But he really only responds to "hot" because i let him feel how warm the toaster oven is and he knows now. But other things like knives and the freezing rain....what can i do?
|He's doing the best that he can with the tools that he has
|Something that always got me through was thinking how we were chosen to be her parents because we wouldn't break her spirit. And that things would get easier as she got older-which has been true so far
Those are great! I'll think of them while i'm dealing with the shrieking and see if it could help with the paradigm shift.
Thanks again, whew! i feel better already.