This keeps popping up in other threads I'm reading - moms saying they don't trust anyone with their kids. Sometimes that excludes dh and sometimes not. Does this mean not anyone - not your mother or sister or best friend? Or just not a 14 year old sitter?
I have always trusted dh with our kids - he may do things differently than I do but I knew they would be safe. Can't imagine not having that feeling. I may not have left dd1 much when she was very little as I exclusively breastfed but I did pump and leave her with Grammy for three hours when she was three months old (dh and I went to a Halloween costume party). I know my sister babysat her a few times before a year old. I left her now and then with close friends. Dh had her without me whenever I needed to do something quickly or something that was just not baby friendly.
High school sitters are a totally different ball game (IMO). Dd1 was three before we tried that.
Now dd1 is 6 and dd2 is 2 and we have two high school sitters, one college sitter, scads of friends, neighbors, family members that we trust with them. I know my comfort level with this has grown since having the second baby and also just with them growing up a little but are there really moms here who don't trust their kids with anyone? What message does that send to the kid about the society we live in? I can understand being careful but not to the extent that you don't get a break and the child is given the message that he/she is not safe with anyone but mom.
I am curious to hear others' thoughts on this.
Kirsten
I have always trusted dh with our kids - he may do things differently than I do but I knew they would be safe. Can't imagine not having that feeling. I may not have left dd1 much when she was very little as I exclusively breastfed but I did pump and leave her with Grammy for three hours when she was three months old (dh and I went to a Halloween costume party). I know my sister babysat her a few times before a year old. I left her now and then with close friends. Dh had her without me whenever I needed to do something quickly or something that was just not baby friendly.
High school sitters are a totally different ball game (IMO). Dd1 was three before we tried that.
Now dd1 is 6 and dd2 is 2 and we have two high school sitters, one college sitter, scads of friends, neighbors, family members that we trust with them. I know my comfort level with this has grown since having the second baby and also just with them growing up a little but are there really moms here who don't trust their kids with anyone? What message does that send to the kid about the society we live in? I can understand being careful but not to the extent that you don't get a break and the child is given the message that he/she is not safe with anyone but mom.
I am curious to hear others' thoughts on this.
Kirsten