Is that a measure of how well-attached a child is to their parents?
I ask, not to pick a fight, but bcs my daughter has a lovey bunny she carries around a lot. I nurse her as often as she wants - usually once an hour or more- we co-sleep, and follow all the AP tenets. She is 1.5 yrs old.
Does this mean she has security issues? Is she worried about something? Is she anxious? Should I be concerned?
There is a lot of tension in the household right now, and I worry that she is picking up on it now. She has done this for many many months, though, not just now.
Amy - Blessed wife to Jesse (the best dad in the world), mother of 10 on earth plus 8 in heaven. PROUD to be a Catholic! :
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
Edited to add that I don't think desiring a lovey (otherwise known as a security object) is necessarily due to an attachment problem. It could just be the child's temperment. My daughter doesn't have one as of yet, but if she starts to have special feelings for a toy or blanket or whatever, I won't discourage it.
when i think of the word "lovey", i think of a security object chosen by a parent and put into the baby's life. I am not terribly familiar with it but i think there are books for parents on how to choose a security object for their babes and i do think that is weird. if my baby chooses on his own its one thing, but i will never encourage him to become attatched to "things".
I get a bit upset by threads in which people insinuate that an AP child has no "need" for a security object. I think it really depends on the child.
P.S. Darshani I got the whole t-shirt idea because my dd was also getting attached to my bras and I did not want her to carry it around with her I thought my dd was the only one into bras.
At first I wondered if something in her life was lacking, that this thing seemed to fill such a void. But then I watched her with it. Everything I did to her, she did to it. She smothered it's face with kisses, she stroked it's bangs. She massaged it's feet. She wanted it diapered.
Then it hit me: Dd was able to attach to her doll, because she had learned to love. All was fine in AP land.
She does love this bunny. And she diapers it and dresses it. The nurses it herself and brings it to me to nurse. She is oh-so happy when she sees it after an absence of a few hours. And she even lets us wash it in the washing machine! Goold ole "Pat" ("pat the bunny" animal).
And my dd also loves bras!!!! She carried one of mine around the better part of one whole day. How silly it looked, but she just loved it. Had to wear it around her neck.