How old where you when you had your first child? - Mothering Forums

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under 18 16 3.35%
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40+ 8 1.67%
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#1 of 131 Old 05-05-2003, 01:02 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?
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27 for my first, 29 for my second. I felt like a *young* parent when I had my first, probably because of my lifestyle and because I look young for my age and would have people mistake me for a teenager. I still feel pretty young though and 32 is coming up. How did that happen? Slightly off topic, does anyone find that time goes faster once you start keeping track of children's birthdays???

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I only have 1 child, but I was 23 when he was born. DH was 23 as well. I feel pretty young for being a mom b/c none of my friends my age have kids & I'm the youngest mom at LLL meetings & playgroups. The health professionals I've dealt with (which are many) for the most part act like I'm some kind of idiot & I'm assuming it's because I'm young.

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I was (and still am) 25. I feel old to be having my first, but that's because I know several people my age and younger with two-year-olds. Plus we tried for three years before we conceived DD, so that made me feel old. And, of course, I look older than I am so that doesn't help.
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Three weeks after my 26th birthday, I gave birth to ds. In the area in which I live and teach, I am considered a "young" mom, though I personally never felt it. To give a perspective: I teach 2nd graders, and most of their moms are really close in age to my own mom!
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I was 21. Its not particularly young in my area but it is hard to find a young and good mom.
Most people think I am 26-27 (I'm 22) so I don't get as many looks or comments as some young moms

Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?
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I was 19 and that was 24 years ago

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I had my first when I was 20. People thought I was a bit crazy, because I homebirthed, extended nursed, did the family bed, etc. I don't think I would have survived without all those bonding tools!
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I turned 24 during my pg, and turned 28 during this (my 2nd) pg. I feel older now, but as oncewerewise said, I look quite young, and did feel very young when Soleil was born.



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I was 24 when I had my son, and I had just turned 26 when I had my daughter. Seems like so long ago. I will be 36 this year and my babies will be 10 and 11.
And YES, the years are going by way faster now that I have children and I want the years to go SLOWER!
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Labor started when I was eighteen, but I was nineteen when I had Sequoia
I was 22 with Dylan, and felt much more confident, informed, knowlegable and competent. But much of that has to do with my vowing to have MY kind of birth instead of my doctor's kind of birth.

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27 and 29, like Oncewerewise. I'm 34 now. Whether I feel young or old depends on who I hang out with. In the NYC most of my friends were about my age or slightly older. Now I'm in the country, and I have one group of 20-something friends with children my children's age, but all my homeschooling friends are several years older than me, and they also have children my children's age.
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I was 20 with my first and will be 24 with this one. That's young for around here, which is ok, but it's really difficult for me to find other mamas who I fit in with and have the same parenting values as I do.
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I was 19 when Justice was born and 27 when Kaeleb was born.
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I was 21 when I had my first, 26 with second. (I am 27 now). I lived in NYC with DD and Iwas the OLDEST Mama in my birthing class!! Now when I had DS (actually gave birth in Delaware) we were the youngest at 26yo! What an odd experience!

Funny side note is DD's new best school friend was a surprise baby of 2 dating divorcees. Their other kids are about my age! I referred to her Dad as her grandpa for sometime before I knew he was her Dad! Why? He refers to watching her as "babysitting" and before I knew her someone pointed to their house and said the guy their has a kid and his son was outside.
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had my first baby this year, at 36. I just turned 37. I look young for my age, but that doesn't change the sad consequence of waiting this long.
On the other hand, I conceived right away and had no real problems in my pregnancy, and my baby is stupendous, a world-beater, just beautiful.

Divorced mom of one awesome boy born 2-3-2003.
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I had my first 2 1/2 weeks before my 19th birthday. Not unusual for these parts.

-edited to add that, while it's not unusual to have your first child so young around here, I have yet to find another *good* mom who is my age.-
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I was 19 when I had my first, 20 when I had my second and my third was born on my 22nd birthday!
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I was 32 (I'm about to be 33 ). I think it is hard to meet other parents that are close in age, but also of a similar mindset.
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I was 22 with my first baby (I felt like a 15 year old) and 27 with the twins, and 29 with Hunter. I'm younger than most of the moms who have kids in the second grade. It's kind of weird. I mean, I met a woman old enough to be my mom who had a kid in second grade. Go figure. Oh well, it takes all kinds to make the world go round. I'm content with the my choices.....
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I was 28, almost 29 when I had my first. I'd always wanted kids when I was a bit younger, but dh was in grad school, and we had dd1 2 weeks after he started his first 'real' job...so we didn't wait once it was an option (we'd been married almost 5 years when dd1 came along).

I was 30 when dd2 came along and will be almost 33 when baby #3 arrives. I'm about average, I think - all of my friends (for the most part) had kids about the same time I had mine...
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I was 25 when I had my first, and I'll be 35 when this one is born!

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26 for my first, 32 with my second.
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I was 28 when dd was born.

Can I just say that I am really impressed by the youngest mamas on this board? Having a baby at a young age is difficult, I'm sure, for many reasons, but the fact that the young mamas here went "against the grain" and chose to breastfeed, sling, co-sleep. cloth-diaper, etc. is something worthy of praise.
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I am really surprised everybody is so young! I'm 40 now and was 38 when ds was born. I just imagined you all as my age.... It doesn't make a difference just changes the picture in my head of who I'm talking too, yk?
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it _is_ cool to see so many young moms. I had sweet pea (first and only baby so far) 6 weeks ago, I was 21. eight days later I had a birthday, so now am 22.

I am definitely one of the youngest moms I know, and one of the youngest "thoughtful" moms. even the older moms I know are mostly not as crunchy as me (they don't family bed or homebirth, or eat veggie, stuff like that).

I live in a conservative, college educated midwestern city, so that plays into it.

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I was 31. We started ttc when I was 28. It was a long hard road. For all of you who got pregnant easily, Count your blessings. It is so hard to get pregnant for some people....
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I was 31. We started ttc when I was 28. It was a long hard road. For all of you who got pregnant easily, Count your blessings. It is so hard to get pregnant for some people....
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i was just barely 21 with dd#1, 23 with dd#2 and will be 24 with baby #3. Whew!
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