I am so glad you posted this!!
My neighbor and I had our boys 6 months apart. She and I are friends and we have some things in common but our parenting is SOOO different.
She brags how he son is so "independent" because she "taught" him to play all alone.
She told me one day that she and her dh let their son CIO since he wakes up too much and told me that one night he cried hysterically for an hour and when he quieted down, her dh went in to check on him and he was "hyperventilating" (but asleep she was happy to report) She told me she closes the door to his room and closes her door to the master bedroom so she can't hear him that well
She also feeds him peanut butter cookies for breakfast and wonders why he doesn't eat well ( he just turned one)
She told her son to "shut up" when we were out for a walk because he wanted to be held.
She brags that they "slap his hand" when he touches something he shouldn't and he already knows what to touch and not to since if she comes towards him while he is touching something off limits he runs away from her (HELLO, he doesn't WANT TO GET HIT!!)
Anyway, I am glad I could get this out... I cannot be true friends with this person however she is my next door neighbor so I try to get along as best I can.
I am not the most AP in the world, but I try to do what I feel is right for my baby, which does not include any of the things she does!!
You aren't alone however I am where I live since i think I am the only person who doesn't CIO!!! Even my own mom told me tonight my son is spoiled since I don't let him cry