I really connected to this book, both for dd and myself. It also helped me to understand my dh better and where dd gets some of her traits that I just never related to. I am recently having a tough time again lokking at her and accepting her for who she is and need to read the book again. She has always been a child who is great one-on-one, particularly with attention-giving adults, but gets overwhelmed by loud noises and possible bright lights and the craziness of young kids everywhere.
For example, today was a birthday party for her 3yo friend (her first real one) and the mom was playing fun kids songs on their piano. Every other kid was dancing and laughing and singing to the songs. DD wanted me to sit on the couch with her and hold her as if she was scared. She just watched.
I want her to enjoy herself, but I guess my idea of enjoyable isn't hers. I want her to be unique, but not so much so that she stands out as very different. She already has food issues that cause her to be different (I had to bring her own cake and ice cream). My husband thinks I am nuts, but he doesn't see her in these situations.
Am I making any sense? Anyway, it feels good just to vent. Now I need to read the book again. Maybe I have to take darlin's advice and take one trait at a time - for her and for me. I think I have some problems dealing with my insensity too. Could be why I am so worried for her.
OK, thanks for letting me vent and for reading this is you made it this far!