I was at a wedding when about 5 or 6 months pregnant with dd. The groom (our friend) is the sone of a highly interventionist OB in town. Well, during the reception, the groom came to our table and asked (very loudly) if I was planning on having an epidural. I explained, no, for health reasons. It was his wedding and I didn't feel it was an appropriate place to debate... and I really do have health issues. Thought that was that, but without missing a beat (same loud voice), "well, you're planning on having an episiotomy, right? My sisters all had them. In fact xxxx's attending physician wouldn't give her one and she screamed at him until he did but it was too late and (insert horrible consequences here)." Felt like I was in the twilight zone at this point. Don't even remember what I said.
Later when they found out we were cosleeping, I was told that in his family they would never do that because they like their children brought up to be independent. Feeding on demand apparently also lessens independence. He's never said anything about EBF, but does exchange glances with his wife. I choose to smile and do a "works for us" rather than to debate him because I'd rather wait and let dd (a very intelligent, personable and independ child) "speak" for herself. 'sides I'd rather spend my energy where it can make a difference, KWIM? At least he's not CIO, or I would have to debate.
Other than him, our friends are almost all AP or at least very tolerant of AP ideas. However, MIL is a potential problem with the EBF and cosleeping. When we're at her place and dd asks to nurse, MIL will do everything short of standing on her head to try to distract dd. My fear is that when she finally does vocalize her concerns it will be infront of dd (this is not a timid or tactful woman we're talking about here). I will not tolerate passive-aggressive comments really directed at dd instead of myself.