The old "forgiveness is easier to obtain than permission" concept.
I'm impressed that you were able to be so open. I can't do it. I'm still scared of my step mom.
Silly story I just have to share: my step mom watches ds... well, it's not very regularly and that's another story. But when ds was about 3-4mo and he had figured out how to reach for things, she told me that he was reaching for the fan. The fan was off, so he was safe, but I needed to "teach" him not to do that. OK.. he's 4mo and doesn't understand cause and effect. Lost cause. The funny part is, the fan in question is one on a stand so it's about chest level. The only way ds could have been reaching for it is if he was in her arms. Um... how 'bout not holding the baby when you're standing right next to the fan? I just said, "oh, ok" and laughed later.