I have 2 spirited children, one spunky. No easy ones!
Mine were spirited pretty much from birth. One is an introvert tho, and more emotionally spirited, 7 meltdowns a day. The other, a happier child, but always on the go, extroverted, wants attention from someone all day long. Short attn span.
Transitions are hard for spirited children. And clothes---they have to be just right! they both went thru a socks and underwear refusal period.
Dd would never sit in a highchair to eat for more than 5 minutes. All 3 of mine nursed every hour, at age 6 mos, 1 yr, 2 yrs, and so on. Needed lots of cuddles and attn. I used to give them baths twice a day just to entertain and hope to calm them down.
But they are so bright, love to learn, and no one is going to push them around!
The 2 spirited ones still fight a lot, probably always will. I secretly call them the Bickertons.
You have to read the book. There is a workbook too, with activities to stimulate your busy child. APing is so impt for kids like these. I think neglected spirited children fill our prisons. Those correctly (gently, respectfully) raised are our geniuses, our Edisons and Robin Williams, Einsteins, Steve Irwins, and super athletes.