Ok, maybe I'm a little odd, but I had a bit of a detachment thing going on with my first. I didn't really feel "maternal" or anything, even though as a kid I'd always been the motherly babysitter-type. I didn't feel some fierce bonding to her.
I had a natural birth (no drugs, immediate skin-to-skin, no taking her away), co-slept, breastfed, slinged, stayed home, the works.
I think it was mild PPD.
With my son, no such thing. There was an immediate 'click', a fierce maternal instinct turn-on. I don't know for sure why it happened for my son and not my daughter, but I do know that it had nothing to do with my parenting style; that was in essence the same. I think that it had to do with the level of stress I was under. With my first, I got pregnant out of wedlock. My parents were quite unhappy. I lived in a loud, conflict-intensive house (can't go 15 minutes in my parents' house without an arguement, and although people there know that these are not serious arguements, I am convinced that even 'friendly' semi-yelling matches are not healthy for the body in terms of hormones, etc) with 6 other people. We lived there for 6 months before we moved into now-DH's apartment, when suddenly life became quieter and more stable. I seriously think that this had EVERYTHING to do with, well everything. Instead of my daughter having to focus on avoiding the negative arguement-energies all over my parents' place, and instead of me having to expend so much energy on keeping the peace, we got to expend energy on each other. And that made ALL the difference. And I think that this also made ALL the difference when it came to my pregnancy with my son, and to his infancy.
So I, personally, when I read this story, think WOW, these women don't even know how overwhelmed they really are. They think they are handling it, and don't know what the cost is to them and to their "maternal instinct", which, I am afraid, by the time you come home and try to SAHM with a 2 year old is just not going to kick in easily. They just weren't willing to put their energy on their kids and FIND that maternal instinct, if it didn't come to them at first. I'm sure it wasn't THAT lost.
Mama, homeschooler, midwife. DD (13yo), DS (11yo), DD (8yo), DD (3yo), somebody new coming in November 2013.