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View Poll Results: What's your status?
Married (first) 377 71.40%
Married (not first) 54 10.23%
Single (never married) 35 6.63%
Divorced 17 3.22%
Widowed 1 0.19%
Separated 12 2.27%
Other (please explain) 32 6.06%
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#1 of 102 Old 05-01-2007, 02:16 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm curious as to the proportion of single/married/divorced/etc mamas here at MDC.

FTR, I'm separated, will be divorced (hopefully) later this year.

ETA: I should have been more clear - I consider same-sex partners who have had a commitment ceremony/wedding to be married even if it's not "legal." Ditto with common-law marriages or partnerships. If you fit these categories, please vote married!

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I'm married. Lucky for me, gay marriage is legal in Canada.

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uh yeah, I had to pick other because none of the options work for me being that we are a lesbian couple (of almost 15 years) that is unable to marry. We consider ourselves very partnered.
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uh yeah, I had to pick other because none of the options work for me being that we are a lesbian couple (of almost 15 years) that is unable to marry. We consider ourselves very partnered.
That just is so fricken wrong




I checked, "married first" although as far as I'm concerned, it doesn't really apply as it will also be "married, only"
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I am a single mama by choice.

My sons father is my best friend of 17 years, and we were not a couple (never have been) when we decided to have a child together. He is a very involved dad, and lives next door.

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uh yeah, I had to pick other because none of the options work for me being that we are a lesbian couple (of almost 15 years) that is unable to marry. We consider ourselves very partnered.
I second what ThreeBeans said.

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I chose married (first) but it is my second marriage but I married the same man both times so I dunno.

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I voted Married First. DH and I have been married almost 11 years and still going strong
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i have a son with my bf-so i guess im considered single?

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I am very happily married. Dh and I celebrate 10 years tomorrow :
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I put married, even though we're not legally. We've been cohabitating for years now and it's probably as close as either one of us will get to marriage anytime soon.

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I am married for the second time. First time was a starter marriage though so I barely count it.
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Starter marriage, that's funny.

I put married, first, because though it's technically my second marriage, the first was a marriage of convenience borne of youthful stupidity that we annulled after 3 months.

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I chose divorced but I also consider my marriage as a "starter" and I don't usually consider it. It was very short :
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Married. First. 10 yrs. this Sept.!

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Married.
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I am a single mama by choice.

My sons father is my best friend of 17 years, and we were not a couple (never have been) when we decided to have a child together. He is a very involved dad, and lives next door.

I had to comment. What a cool thing
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I'm married for the first and only time as well. Dh, however, has an ex wife.
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This is my first marriage (and hopefully my last!) and our 7 year anniversary is this year!

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I am married, it was is our first marriage last month we hit 10 years.
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This is my second marriage, and we celebrate 11 years this fall.

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I voted other.
I am hardly single just because I am not married.

We are common-law husband and wife.

Together 10 years this summer!

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I'm common law married (only because we just moved to Canada. In the US, we were just considered dating, I guess. lol), but we've never had a commitment ceremony. So should I still vote married?
I don't go by "married" because it's my little way of protesting the stupid "gay marriage isn't allowed" thing in the US. (well, that and I don't really like the patriarchal traditions associated with marriage. But "I'm protesting US gay marriage laws" is what I always tell people who ask.)

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LEGALLY, I'm separated. I got married in 2003. It lasted 7 weeks before I kicked him out and got a restraining order. We were going to get an annullment, but I didn't have the money for the filing fee. I had my lawyer ask his lawyer if we could split it. He said no. Soooo, here we are, 4 years later (hey! my anniversary is tomorrow!) still married. When I'm a little more settled and secure, then I will file for divorce. Right now, I just can't deal with it.

BUT, I consider myself single.





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Third marriage for me, second for him. My first husband realized/accepted he was gay about six months into the marriage...yep. Nothing I could really do there. So, that's one down. Second one smacked me. Well, that was over real quick. So, Ben is my third. His first wife cheated on him hardcore while he was deployed. So, I'm his second.

Yes, we have five marriages between us. And only one wee one, who is ours.
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I've always been single.
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I'm still on my starter marriage.
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I am married for the second time. First time was a starter marriage though so I barely count it.
Same here. It lasted 4 years but ended with no kids, no property, and no regrets on my part about getting divorced.

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Married. First and only.
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I am still married (1st) but we are going to be filing for divorce soon. We have been married four years but it just didn't work.
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