Just posted in another thread that dd said, while leaving with dh and I after playing with a family of three kids, "I want a whole
We have thought and talked about this a lot and have been pretty comfortable with "no more, at least not now." Then this.
However, she did then define a "whole family" as "Mama, Papa, and ME!"
I go back and forth and back and forth on this one. She such a social, nurturing little kid -- the kind who walks up to strangers, waves at them a bit, then gives them a big hug. I think how great it would be for her to have someone who is really "hers", who she can play with all the time and have intimacy with. But she is also rather high-needs -- I hesitate to write that because she is not classically high needs, and is a great kid with the amount of attention I give her, but I give her a LOT of attention. And if I don't give her that much attention, there are problems. I can't imagine how a new baby would fit in.
I know JUST what you mean about not messing with things. Why gild the lily? Things are so wonderful right now.
Then dh says, this one is so wonderful, how can we not make another one? (He feels it's my decision, ultimately, and is very supportive, but is slightly more towards having another than I am.)
It's a toughie.