I am totally the opposite of the mom who worries... I never worry about anything. Sometimes I think that I should react to stuff that happens but for whatever reason I just don't. I don't really understand why and I'm starting to think maybe there's something wrong with me.
We were out at the park today -- not really a park, but a wide open field. DS and DH were fireing off a rocket tonight and we needed a wide open space so it wouldn't drift onto someone's house.
Anyway, as DS and DH were walking off into the distance, 11.5 month old DD and I stayed back on the path. She was walking up and down the paved path (it was paved but a little rough for ware -- no pot holes or anything, not that bad, but a little difficult for walking at times). Anyway, DD was having a blast walking up and down the path picking up the rocks along the way (she's been walking since 9.5 months) She fell once, whimpered a timid cry to which I didn't respond to, and then picked herself back up and went on her way, quickly smiling again.
As we were playing in the path a dog-walking old lady walked by and said to me "aren't you worried that she'll fall?" I didn't say anything but thought about it for a minute. I probably shrugged my shoulders or shook my head. She said "You're not worried she'll fall and scrape her knees?" -- again, I didn't respond verbally and she said "good mother", dripping with sarcasm, and walked on her way.
What should I have done?
Baby #6: 20****25****30****35**** - EDD December 17, 2010
Right now my 21 month old has huge bandages on both her knees and a mighty ugly scabbed up elbow. She got them from climbing rocks and trying to follow her big brother walking on a curb. Oh, I forgot the skid marks on her forehead. Literally skid marks. I won't break her adventerous spirit by stopping her from trying things that she might get hurt doing. Killed yes, I stop those, hurt, not very often. I may tell her to slow down or tell her to watch her feet or something like that. But I don't stop her.
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That lady makes me so angry. : I can just picture how mean she must have sounded and how you felt afterward. Don't let it get to you.
Same thing happens with Grandma--I'll be standing there watching my kid climb something and she will run over and try to hold his waist or whatever so he won't fall.
I don't think there's anything wrong with letting kids figure stuff out by themselves--it's good, in fact. A few bumps and bruises are just not a big deal. I think you sound like a great Mommy!
Other people don't know those things. My dd is not yet 19 months old and she goes down the slide at the park that has a sign on it which reads "designed for children from the ages of 5-12" and she has a blast! I wait at the bottom of the slide and she goes up and down and up and down for hours on end. It's wonderful! I worry a little about what on earth she'll find to do at a playground when she gets older, but I'm sure she'll figure something out. Some of the parents at the park get a bit nervous, but once I tell them that she goes down that slide all the time and is totally fine, they relax
You know your child best and you'll know if you need to worry because you'll feel uncomfortable in that situation - whatever that situation is for your individual child. I think that children do best when parents don't hover, personally. Have you read the Continuum Concept? I don't agree with everything in that book, but a lot of it makes sense to me and dd has certainly done well with the philosophies I got from it.
love and peace.
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Don't let it get to you. A good mother gives her child lots of chances and opportunities to learn and grow and develop abilities and encourages sturdy independence when the child is ready for it. You're doing that!
No you are fine. The stranger IMHO was rude and nosey. It depresses me to see overcautious parents whenever we go someplace kid-oriented. Moms literally following their kids around the playground saying "be careful" and "don't run." Argh.
Funny, I used to be that helicopter mom with my first.
Lisa (mom to 3 wonderful children)
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Minor bumps and bruises? No big deal. I don't worry about much either, and I think individual parents are more apt to know their kids' abilities than random strangers.
Rylie is 7, Ronin is 3.5
One of my best comments/compliments yet? My son is a professional faller. The kid knows how to fall and is constantly exploring and testing boudaries. This morning he learned how to do a dive off the couch, head first. He's 10 months old.
Let her explore - she was WALKING - not skydiving for goodness sake!
No, I don't worry about such things. However, when my children actually need me I am there in a heartbeat. My DH can be closer, and faster and I'll still beat him to the kids.
My DC loves dealing with us because of this. Other children feel very comfortable with the truth around me, because they know after dealing with me once that I know that accidents happen. It isn't anyone's fault. It isn't fatal. Scrapes heal. Being protected from life doesn't.