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#1 of 18 Old 06-01-2007, 05:12 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I have learnt a lot just by listening to other moms... A lot of the times I'll pick up a phrase that I like for other moms. What common phrases do you use all the time that might be useful to other moms?

Here are a few that I use frequently: (I'm sure I'll add more as I use them/think of them!)

"Food stays at the table"

"Inside voices, please"

"Try it again"

"Yes, later" (an alternative to "no")

"You may be able to do XYZ at home, but in Bubby's house we follow Bubby's rules"
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"Not at this time."

"OK, what are the rules?" before we enter a store or something.
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"Dinosaurs do not belong in the toilet. It is not a pool!"

"Butter isn't hand lotion." (This was at Denny's.)

"I think that's enough toilet paper." (After my ds had pulled it out the bathroom door and down the hallway. )


Okay, I know these aren't what you were looking for. I couldn't help myself. For some reason it's a zoo around here lately. :

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"Your teeth are not a tool"

I started this when DD1 was an infant and now everyone in my family repeats it. DD used to use her teeth to tear open bags of snacks, open drinks and tear anything. Hence your teeth are not a tool, she had to get the appropriate tool for the task.
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"Yes, later" (an alternative to "no")
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My soon to be step daughter has figured this one out. After we say this she asks, "Later today?"

It may not be useful to other moms but it seems like we say "No crabbing" a lot around here. Crabbing is our general term for crying/whining/complaining/fussing.

I think I ask DS (3 mo) "Do you have pants?" (as in wet/dirty diaper) about forty times a day.

Every family seems to have their own set of terms for things. It is fun to hear what other parents call things.

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My all time favorite and WAY overused at our house "USE YOUR WORDS!"
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My all time favorite and WAY overused at our house "USE YOUR WORDS!"
Yes! We use that one a lot too!
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I did pick this up somehow, can't remember where but when wanting to emphasize something I put it in the context of our whole family not just the child or in comparison to anyone else.

There is no hitting in our family, noone hits anyone else.

We all help clean up in our family (amazingly this has been very effective!)

We are a family so we help each other.
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Just thought of another two that I use frequently...

"You're whining. Find your normal voice"

"How do you ask nicely?" (when he demanded something)
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"Gosh that sounds like a problem"

Said in response to some minor complaint about a sibling like "Ellie's tapping her fingers too loudly on the keyboard... and I mean that sounds like a problem for you, but I am not getting involved)


"I'm sorry you feel that way, but it doesn't matter, I'll always love you no matter how you feel."

Said in response (years ago) to that toddler tantruming "I hate you."


"If you need me, I'll be in the mudroom sorting the laundry"

Said in response to a tantruming child who is refusing offers of sympathy, empathy and loving hugs and still continues to scream and cry.
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When someone I love is hurting someone I love I get really ANGRY!!

(Sibling violence)

Do you want an answer right away? Because then my answer is no. But if you can wait until I've thought about it, I might have a different answer.

(In response to "can I do so and so". Not snarky, honest).

Let's see if we can figure out a solution.

(Instead of me supplying one.)

When it's time to go, you don't go slow. &

You never know until you go.

(Courtesy of Ds's therapist, although Ds likes to say "You might DIE if you TRY!)
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Great thread!

"Not for (insert dc's name)." THis is great for exploring babes adn toddlers when you don't want to say no all the time.

"I can't understand that voice." Response to whining.
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I use "Walk away" all the time. It works great to have them just "walk away" from temptation rather than saying "Stop doing..." "Don't..." "Quit..." It is hard for them to stop doing something wrong when the temptation is right there... so just "walk away" from it.
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Bethkm, I also use "just for looking not for touching" when toddlers are interested in something that they can't handle for some reason. i.e. we enjoy "looking" at lollipops at Starbucks!
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My current favorites with my toddlers:

"Teeth are for eating" (I like this better than "no biting" since biting is ok, just not biting your brother)

"Feet on the floor" (For climbing, it tells them I want them to do)

"Stop" (This works well in situations where I need them to stop what they are doing until I get there, like when one was about to step off the top of a play structure today as I was dashing toward him. If I say no, they don't really listen.)

Let them sleep in the middle, Let them be little
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We use a lot of those...

"What do you suggest we do to fix it" This is about the only thing I have to repeat w/ DS1 who is 7 yrs old. He is always complaining about the babies. How they cry, or stink, or take up all the time, or how DS1 ruins his stuff, etc. 9 times out of 10 it gets him out of an offensive mode and puts him back into a problem solving mode. And usually I've found a 5 minute conversation about the "problem" is enough to reassure him that he is very much loved.

"Thats Mommy's, lets find a Declan toy" This is our most said phrase to DS3, who is 13 months. Unfortunately I might as well be speaking Klingon b/c no matter how nice I am about it, it launces him into temper tantrums from the darkside.

And my alltime favorite: "Mama like privacy in the bathroom, just as you don't want me standing over you while you are in the bathroom" Believe it or not, DS1 has this down. DH doesn't.

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"Momma is not for biting. This (grab something, anything else near at hand) is for biting."
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Just thought of a few more...

When DS is running off ahead of me if we are out, I'll start saying:

"Red Light - Stop!"
"Yellow light - Go slowly"
"Green light - GO!"

(I'll do this repeatedly until we have caught up to him.)

If DC is doing something where they are in immediate danger I'll move them and say:

"That's not safe"
"That's dangerous"
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