his personality is wonderfully balanced. i just get so so pissed when people think we are lying. why would we? i guess we know that long haired little boys are not the norm in this backwater town
Happiness despite misery is a great victory, I think...
Single coffee loving and making mom to ds, age 12, dd, age 10, dd, age 7, tigress, quinn, black cat, and beatrice the spider. Yeeehawww!!!
I always let my ds wear his hear however he wants at age 3-4 he had a mullet. Trust me this was not my idea but, it was cute. Now at 7 he likes his hair super short because it keeps him cool and we don't have to fuss with it much.
I'm sorry people don't understand your ds hair. Let him choose and just let people's comments roll off your back. Seeing a little boy with long hair would not bother me.
rachel & mylo
We always got people thinking DD was a boy, even sometimes when she was wearing pink! I don't take it personally, I've never minded, and if people apologize I just say "oh don't be silly! it's hard to tell at this age!".
I have made the same mistake myself. I think it's great that you are letting your son wear his hair the way he wants. I think if you don't react negatively to others mistaking him for a girl, it shouldn't matter to him, either.
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
The problem is that I have all boys and some people think that I have his hair long because I want a girl. If I want to adopt a girl next I will. I love my boys and, at this point, have no major interest in a girl. I just love the long hair. I've known other little boys with long hair and they just look gorgeous. As soon as he can choose it'll be up to him, but I've got awhile before that happens. I wish I knew what to do. When people say "she's beautiful" or whatever i sometimes nod or say, yes he is or whatever. I don't mind him being mistaken for a girl because I think so much subtle gender stereotyping goes on for little kids I don't mind if he gets girl messages as well as boy ones. I just wish people didn't think I was trying to make him something he's not
I always ask how old is your baby/ child?
its down on his shoulders
and he has LONG eyelashes like his daddy so everyone thinks he is a girl
and oh boy the looks we get in this good ol boy town !
|Originally posted by sillypants
I never, ever, EVER assume gender of a child. My daughter had peachfuzz for hair until she was 2+ and no matter what ridiculous pink getup dress she'd be in people would STILL say " How old's your little boy?"
Gavin now has barely any hair as well. My SO (who had a ton of hair when he was born and is now loosing it at 33) always says the longer it takes to grow in, the longer he'll have it.
So far, the only comment we've gotten about his cute little head was some moron in the grocery store who asked him where all of his hair was. Yeah, moron, I cut it all off. :
i had a rule in HS to only date guys with long hair..
Dh was long untill he cut it 2 years ago... it was time for change..
I bet all your boys are too cute
We don't cut our boys' hair until their third birthday for religious reasons, and that has some folks all worked up. :
Though many folks in our religious path put barettes in their little boys' hair ... that we didn't do. But his hair grew so slowly that by the time we cut it (at a special party, where everyone cuts a little bit off and gives him blessings and tells stories ... and boy did he love it ...) it was really just at that annoying length where it's in his face, not long enough to be called "long."
Looking forward to DS#2's hair growing in curlier and longer, though ...
I cut my hair short in high school, and between that and my leather biker jacket I was always getting mistaken for a boy, but it didn't bother me too much. I enjoyed being "butch". It was a lot better than the perms and sunday dresses my mother forced on me when I was a little girl and would have preferred to just be a tomboy. I intend to let my kids be who they want to be, whether they're four or fourteen.
breastfeeding, babywearing, homeschooling Heathen parent to my little Wanderer, 7 1/2 , and baby Elf-stone, 3/11!
People who don't know him always mistake him for a girl (ok, last week he had me paint his toenails which didn't help). It does grate sometimes. In many ways, he's the stereotypical "boy" so it always cracks me up when we're hanging out around the construction site watching the backhoes dig, and playing the air drums and guitar (yes, he's bangs his head quite nicely thankyou) and people still come up to us and tell me what a cute little girl I have. HUH?
If and when DS wants his hair cut it will be up to him. Period. Admittedly, it pains me to think of him wanting to cut that beautiful hair short, nonetheless, I will support it.
At 2.5, ds has the most gorgeous (yes, no bias here, either ) golden curls. I've never cut it and won't until it becomes necessary (if tangles start to become unmanageable) or he makes the decision to cut it. It took forever for him to get hair - I'm in no hurry to get rid of it! He also has huge blue eyes and very long lashes, so people often assume he's a girl. It's unfathomable to me that anyone could make that mistake, but, I just remind myself that they don't know him as I do and that there's nothing insulting about such an assumption anyway (because being a girl is pretty darned cool).
He cracks me up sometimes, though, because he'll look in the mirror, brush his hair down over his forehead and yell, "I'm a GIRL!", then brush it back away from his face and yell, "I'm a BOY!" Don't know where he got that... funny kid
|Originally posted by ophelia_tigerlily
i am constantly amazed by not only children thinking he is a girl but also adults.
Most boys and men have short hair. Young children do not facial hair, breasts, low voices, or other distinctions that tell us what sex they are. A lot of children dress in a genderless sort of way (eg. one of my two daughters is wearing blue shorts and a red t-shirt right now). Why should people be expected to know that a child with long hair is a boy?
My daughters like looking at construction sites and one of them plays air guitar. Why should I look at someone doing this and assume they're a boy?
Of course, if you tell them your child is a boy, and they still insist or make comments, that is entirely obnoxious. I've been through this with my daughters when they were babies, and I know how annoying it is.
But please, if someone makes the wrong assumption in the beginning, don't get upset. Just gently correct it.
FWIW, I like long hair on boys. But I do occasionally assume a child is a girl and later find out it's a boy. And I have had the opposite on rare occasions, with little girls with very short hair and genderless clothes.
The funny thing is we had a little boy with long hair visiting and my dh thought he was a girl!
Mary Beth of Paul(7), Harry(5), and Timmy (nearly 2)
Let him be, let him love his hair, love his hair... people that can't accept a child as he is don't deserve wasting energy on.
(ps Piglet check my 3-day old or so "prettiest mama" thread in tao ~ starring you )
Oh well, glad to join the long-haired boys mama club!
-Alice, SAHM to dd (2001) and ds (2004) each of whom was a , who each self-weaned at 4.5 years , who both 'd, who were both, and both: . Also, , and !
|what do I gotta do, show off his penis??|
I don't get annoyed w/people calling DS a girl, I get annoyed with:
--he should get a haircut
--"she" thinks hes a boy comments
--adults correcting my 4.5 year old dd that she "means sister." uhhh, no she doesnt
DD chose to get a hair cut at 2.75 and at 4.25 she got it cut short. We'll see how long DS keeps his hair. I give people extra slack if he has his nails polished and hair clips in He loves being like sissy.
He did come up with a come-back all his own though. One Sunday when he was about 4 in his class one of the boys told him he had hair like a girl and Noah said "I have long hair like Jesus" the following Sunday I had every mom of a boy in his class telling me that their sons wanted long hair now
I really hope that he doesn't ever want to cut his hair (ditto with all my kids!) I love my long haired children
We had his hair trimmed (less than half an inch) about a year and a half ago and the woman who cut it cried the entire time, moaning with each snip. So that was it. We decided short hair wasn't all that important in the great scheme of things. I mean, we traumatized the hairdresser.
I don't let the comments bother me. I've learned to come up with smart responses to it. I also have to deal with, "Are you having fun out shopping with granny today." I look around quickly and say, "Oh, is his grandmother here, I haven't seen her in a while." That usually shuts them up. (I'm 53 and my son is 12 months.)
As far as the hair, my hair is below my waist, DH's is almost to his waist. We're not cuttin DS's hair unless he requests it. No matter what grandma says.