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Look what MIL got ds:

http://www.walmart.com/catalog/produ...uct_id=2620069



What I'm a supposed to do now, and where in heck am I supposed to store such a monstrosity????

And furthermore, why would someone purchase something so large without asking permission?

They come by every 6-8 weeks. Dh is usually on my side, and this doesn't thrill him, but I don't think getting rid of it immediately is an option right now.

There is no place to hide this thing, and of course ds is going to freakin' love it, he's going to want to "drive" it everyday. Our patio is not very big, and our cul-de-sac has a downward slope onto a busy street. What are we supposed to do, tackle the hummer every time he starts going towards the street???

Not to mention the fact that's it's a Hummer. Yeah, let's get 'em started young.

I don't know what to do about this, they are soooooo excited to give it to him.

Ugh.

ETA: I didn't mention, my son is only 2.
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Has he seen it yet? If not, DH calls his mum back and explains that this is simply not going to stay at your house, it's inappropriate, and dangerous, and not something your family values. Then ask her what she would like to do with it.


Eee gads, it's hideous
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It's really just.......I don't know, I'm speechless.

I am thinking of asking him to tell her it should be a toy for Grandma's house. There are quiet roads at their house that are safe, she has the storage space, and we only go every other month or so.
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I like the idea of keeping it at Grandma's house. Maybe call Grandma and tell her that safety is a concern and tell her that her house would be a better idea since you are afraid of DS going in the street. I would hate it too but the only grandparent in my family knows I hate SUVs.
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I've figured out what to do!

The next time one of my neighbors donates to the cancer society, I'm going to leave it out on their lawn
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lol ooooh, too much!

that would absolutely be a "stay at grandma's house" toy for us! :
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I've figured out what to do!

The next time one of my neighbors donates to the cancer society, I'm going to leave it out on their lawn
Well, I think that is plain rude, not to mention cowardly. They thought enough to want to spend some money on your child and you hand it off to the neighbors as a freebie? If I was your mil, I'd be hurt and angry at your total dishonesty and callousness toward a well-meaning gift.

If you don't want your child to have it (by the way, it is listed for children age 3 years and up, so your son is too young for it anyway), show some backbone and tell them honestly. Thank them for the thought and ask that they return it and get their money back as it just isn't something you want your child to have.

Tell them you appreciate the idea (they were just trying to do something nice, for gosh sake, not ruin your child) but that it just isn't the right time for such a toy. That you don't have the room for it at your place nor a safe area for it to be used and that your child is too young for such an active toy in any case.

And, if you son't like it for your child at your place, don't be a hypocrit and allow it at their place. Don't want your child to have the toy? Then don't allow him to have it anywhere.
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Could you give it to him and not let him know about the batteries? My son had several noisy toys given to him at that age that I never put batteries in, I don't think he ever noticed.

Without the batteries it would be a cool thing to climb on, sit in, use his imagination while he pretends to drive, (although still a Hummer -- Yuck) but wouldn't be as much of a safety hazard.

When your MIL in law comes you can just tell her the batteries are "charging".
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too funny (about the donation). I say keep it at grandma's - there is no way I want something that bothers me so much in my home.

You don’t owe them an explanation, just a response.
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Either return it or let it live at grandmas.

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I've figured out what to do!

The next time one of my neighbors donates to the cancer society, I'm going to leave it out on their lawn
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Btw, a gift is for the giftee to do with as she pleases. There is nothing cowardly or rude about giving it away.
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Well, I think that is plain rude, not to mention cowardly. They thought enough to want to spend some money on your child and you hand it off to the neighbors as a freebie? If I was your mil, I'd be hurt and angry at your total dishonesty and callousness toward a well-meaning gift.
Not that I place monetary value on gifts, but they picked it up at a second hand store for under $20. I was surprised when I saw the price tag on the Wal-Mart link.

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Tell them you appreciate the idea (they were just trying to do something nice, for gosh sake, not ruin your child) but that it just isn't the right time for such a toy. That you don't have the room for it at your place nor a safe area for it to be used and that your child is too young for such an active toy in any case.

And, if you son't like it for your child at your place, don't be a hypocrit and allow it at their place. Don't want your child to have the toy? Then don't allow him to have it anywhere.


Yes, if it were only that simple that I can pick up the phone and tell my MIL my honest feelings without some backlash and causing family drama.

So far you've called me callous, rude, spineless, cowardly, dishonest and a hypocrite. I'm mildly amused by that.

Quite frankly, I would think this a toy that would make most MDC'ers shudder, judging from what I understand the purpose statement of Mothering to be.

By the way, I never said she was trying to ruin my child. I can save all that for another thread
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Could you give it to him and not let him know about the batteries? My son had several noisy toys given to him at that age that I never put batteries in, I don't think he ever noticed.

Without the batteries it would be a cool thing to climb on, sit in, use his imagination while he pretends to drive, (although still a Hummer -- Yuck) but wouldn't be as much of a safety hazard.

When your MIL in law comes you can just tell her the batteries are "charging".
That's a fabulous idea, but quite simply we don't really have the space. I guess we can make some, but it's getting crowded out there on that patio. The rest of our yard is prickly desert, with scorpions and quite possibly rattlesnakes. When we have the money, we are expanding our fenced in area and tearing out all the ouchies that live there.
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I would like to add, I'm not fuming mad or anything. I'm almost laughing about it because the toy seems so crazy to me. I also giggle everytime I picture myself tackling the hummer when ds tries to drive it into the street.
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I love the idea of having it at grandma's house, especially if you explain the danger of your street.

Good luck
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Well, heck, if it's a hummer, it's probably as big as the regular cars on the street, right?? Maybe the other drivers wouldn't notice.

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Well, I think that is plain rude, not to mention cowardly. They thought enough to want to spend some money on your child and you hand it off to the neighbors as a freebie? If I was your mil, I'd be hurt and angry at your total dishonesty and callousness toward a well-meaning gift.
You can't please MIL's as easily as you think. Mine bought me a couple of items of clothing once, handed it to me in the shopping back. I tried them on and they didn't fit so I (politely) asked her if she wanted to take them back. Three years later or so she told me how horrible I was and that I should have just said thank-you and gotten rid of them after she left.
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It's really just.......I don't know, I'm speechless.

I am thinking of asking him to tell her it should be a toy for Grandma's house. There are quiet roads at their house that are safe, she has the storage space, and we only go every other month or so.

perfect!

explain to her that you have no where t store it, no where to ride it but you know ds is going to just love it. It would be the perfect thing for grandma and grandpa to share with him at their house.

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How about removing the innards-the seats, steering wheel, ect- and putting a small mattress in it to make a toddler bed? Looks big enough to pull such a feat off!
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Oh no. I haven't read any of the other replies, but I would be LIVID if someone did that. This is why I've been so obnoxiously vocal with family since the beginning about what my values are and what kinds of things I do and don't want in MY house.

I would say "no, thank you, our house is really too small for that. here are some alternative things he would love to have"

If it is really truly too late to cancel or return the order (although you should be able to return it once it comes) maybe you have a friend who would want it?
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How about you keep it, appreciate the gesture, let your son play with it cause you KNOW he's going to have a blast with it, and watch him when he rides it?
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How about you keep it, appreciate the gesture, let your son play with it cause you KNOW he's going to have a blast with it, and watch him when he rides it?
how about she not.
Kids move FAST, going down hill the move faster, into traffic no way I was keeping it at my house.
Plus if she has very little space, and the back is unsafe, it should go to grandma's house, he can have a blast there in a safer atmosphere.

My MIL who knows how I feel about hummers would have never made that gesture, I guess there's something about being the crazy b***h DIL, cause mine knows I'd sell/gift/donate it, and has gotten in line with my picks
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I love the idea of having it at grandma's house, especially if you explain the danger of your street.

Good luck
Yes, do this. I would thank them, but then say that you don't have a place to store it and that there's no safe place for him to drive it...but that you thought it would be a fun toy to use at Grandma's. I say this as a person who absolutely abhors driving toys for kids, but since you have some drama potential with your ILs, just phrase it along those lines...
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I would like to add, I'm not fuming mad or anything. I'm almost laughing about it because the toy seems so crazy to me. I also giggle everytime I picture myself tackling the hummer when ds tries to drive it into the street.
Well that's good ... I'm mad for you though

And now that I see it's secondhand and can't be returned I guess the grandma house option is the best. I would have my dh (if it was me) tell her that if she can't take it it will be given away and to please check with us in the future.
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I would just tell her as nicely as possible that it is not the kind of toy you want your son to have. I can't believe she would buy something like this without asking you. This would p*ss me off - I struggle, it seems like daily, with my mom buying ds crap. It really is disrespectful when I ask her over and over and over to not buy ds anything - but if she must it cannot be plastic, battery operated, etc....

I wouldn't keep it at home or at Grandmas.
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how about she not.
Kids move FAST, going down hill the move faster, into traffic no way I was keeping it at my house.
Plus if she has very little space, and the back is unsafe, it should go to grandma's house, he can have a blast there in a safer atmosphere.

My MIL who knows how I feel about hummers would have never made that gesture, I guess there's something about being the crazy b***h DIL, cause mine knows I'd sell/gift/donate it, and has gotten in line with my picks
Have you ever seen one of these things move? They don't go that fast at all, even downhill. The wheels only turn due to the mechanics of the motor propelling it. When it is sitting still, it's near impossible to move cause the wheels aren't "loose".

And I don't get the hate for hummers here, which is why I think this is a big deal. I know they aren't environmentally friendly or whatever, but it's not like a toy for a two year old:

1. Is going to affect the upbringing you give them
2. Suddenly make it so that the child can afford a hummer when he/she grows up.
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I love your idea, but I also think you could paint it with all kinds of save the planet slogans and take it to Earth Day rallies... although maybe it would disturb your son if you graffitied "PLANET KILLER" on the back of it

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wow- what a fun thing for the kids! My ds has a big thing like that and we moved to a condo type area and now we leave it at his great grandmother's so he can ride it on her big yard when we go over to visit.
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