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#61 of 75 Old 09-25-2007, 03:11 PM
 
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Wow !! Never heard of such a thing ,,

WE are lip kissers ,, always have , always will
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We kiss on the lips. I never thought anything of it until we moved to where we are now. Several people have brought up that it's inappropriate. The oddest was one day when I was getting DS from mother's morning out. He ran over "mommy!" and kissed me on the lips. Another woman's daughter then went over to kiss her mom on the lips. Her mom actually grabbed her shoulders and pushed her away. She said, "no, you don't kiss on the lips. It's not right for children to do that" all the while glaring at me. I felt terrible for the poor kid because she had no idea what she'd done wrong.

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It'd be your MIL I'd be setting straight!! Good grief, that kind of nonsense makes me crazy. When DD wasn't around I'd give her hell for demonizing such and innocent and sweet gesture. I'd make sure to tell her in no uncertain terms that she should consider herself LUCKY to get kisses from MY daughter.
Word. DD is 2.5 too, and she's a little lovebug. She kisses on the lips sometimes too, it's just whatever floats her boat at the time. I don't see anything wrong with it, especially when you are talking about family!
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It isn't weird until they try and stick their tongue in your mouth because....daddy does it to mommy.
LOL, so true! Sometimes ds will *lick* me.

My toddler kisses on the lips. I think it's sweet! Your MIL is just being a prude...i'm sure she thinks she's telling you 'for the best' though. It's not like your toddler is doing it in a sexual way though, god, some people just jump to the wrong conclusions huh?

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We're lip kissers too. Dh still kisses his parents on the lips as well. Not a thing at all, unless someone is looking to make it one. She should be happy that she wanted to give her a kiss at all. You really have to butter my dd up to get a kiss from her. Unless you're her big brother, she'll kiss him all day long. Dh and I have to work for it
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I'm 25 and still kiss my mom on the lips. It's not a big deal.
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I'm 35 and still kiss my parents on the lips!

Of course, my 3 year old DD likes to try to French me but I discourage that one.

DS spit kisses. It's cute but makes me squeam at the same time.

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It isn't weird until they try and stick their tongue in your mouth because....daddy does it to mommy.
true! and EW lol

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I think kisses on the lips are fine. Even open mouth, drooly, with a hint of cheerios still stuck on her lips kisses from my 13 month old. Those might actually be the best ones.
aw!!!

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Yeah it's your MIL thats the nutter...but I agree with the previous posters, if she doesn't like it (and not in a "This is disgusting" sort of way) then personal boundries should be respected...ask Grandma to NICELY encourage DD to kiss her on the cheek. Make something up about lipstick or cold sores or something so DD doesn't feel wonky about it.



Same with my DS! Except his was his butt once and his penis another time...I'm sorry to say I told him no dice on kissing his penis (long story, he was running around diaper-free and fell on a toy and hurt his penis...asked me to kiss it...I kissed his leg.)
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Yeah one of mine requested a hurt penis kiss too and I declined - well actually I think I kissed my hand and blew it at the boo boo instead. Still worked, those magic boo boo kisses rock.
Yeah we've had requests to kiss the penis and butt. I just blow kisses as well

Older DS still kisses on the lips and he's 5. MOST of the time I'm alright with it but when he presses his lips hard against mine and starts trying to move his head back and forth like his daddy...um no. At that point I tell him that THAT kind of kissing is reserved for grown ups.

Younger DS has only kissed me a few times. He withholds the kissies Your MIL should consider herself lucky!

I LOVE when my kids kiss me!
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Lip kissers here! My ds is 9 and I have never thought that there was anything weird about kissing on the lips. If he doesn't want to, he will let me know.

He would kiss his grandmother on the lips when she was alive and when he was younger, but not as much as me and dh though....

This morning he said he didn't want a kiss while we were "acrobating" in bed because I had coffee breath!

That said, he sometimes smothers me in kisses and we have silly kissing games....he loves me! :
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It is such a cultural thing, and that can include the very small culture of your nuclear family. I know people that are totally fine with on the lip kisses between adult family members, I know I kissed my parents on the lips for a long time, probably until I went through the "PDAs with parents are uncool" phase. It isn't that unusual, though if MIL is not used to it, it may have taken her by surprise. I would just explain to her that it is something your daughter does with close family to show affection because she isn't into hugs.

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We're all still lip kissers here too. Your mil may just have some issues with personal space and physical closeness....I know some people like that. It is kind of odd that she considers it sexual....I never saw a problem with it.

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My oldest daughter is 15 and she still kisses us on the lips goodnight. My 13 year old DD is not a lip kisser tho. I definately wouldn't flip over a 2 year old kissing on the lips. Your MIL sounds seriously uptight - Her poor husband :

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I kissed my mom and dad on the lips till I was 9-10 somewhere in there.
me too. not sure when. still give hugs and cheek kisses, i just didn't wanna kiss them on the lips anymore. i honestly don't even remember HOW it happened.

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It isn't weird until they try and stick their tongue in your mouth because....daddy does it to mommy.
haha. yeaaaah. DD1 tried that before. i laughed at her and told her kids don't kiss that way.

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I might get flamed for this, but, I think it's ok for G-ma to *calmly* say, w/o any sort of "this is wrong" implication, "Honey, I'd prefer for you to kiss me on the cheek/forehead/whatever."
agreed. i do think it's strange for a gramma to not love lovin' from their grandkid(s) but to each their own.

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Another woman's daughter then went over to kiss her mom on the lips. Her mom actually grabbed her shoulders and pushed her away. She said, "no, you don't kiss on the lips. It's not right for children to do that" all the while glaring at me. I felt terrible for the poor kid because she had no idea what she'd done wrong.
that's so so sad. i really can't believe some people.
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I'm 35 years old and still kiss my mom on the lips!! My dad stopped kissing me on the lips when I was about 9 or 10...I thought it was sort of sad.
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Ds kisses me on the lips all the time-although lately he holds the kiss a little longer than Im comfortable with lol

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