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On the topic of turkey - I'm so excited to be celebrating American Thanksgiving this year! My family is coming up from the States. And I get real Thanksgiving dinner. My hubby is Lebanese, and we always celebrate with his family, and they do not eat traditional Thanksgiving dinner.

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P.S. I hope no one minds that I participate. I'm an aspiring mom of many (lol), and it's nice to conversate with people who don't think I'm crazy because I want a 3rd, 4th, 5th and...

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WHat is considered 'many'?

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Well, I only have five. Only. I have just gotten over feeling like a troop of circus clowns as one after the other climbs out of the van.

We had a lovely day here despite 3 colds.

Yes, there is laundry in the washer, dryer, hamper, and a basket of dirty towels awaits but the diaper pail is momentarily empty. I feel so needed.

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May I join? I almost have four babies, and my oldest is only five years old, so, I feel like I have a million. Is anyone a vegetarian mom of many? We are new to the veggie Thanksgiving, and while we'll probably have more traditional Thanksgivings at my in laws house and my mothers, at home we want to avoid the turkey. Any tips?
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What are your plans for Thanksgiving?

I am hosting dh's family. His parent will stay in a hotel and his brother here. They will all express disappointemnt with a vegetarian meal but will plan on coming again next year. They drive me nuts. Heck, the two things I that drive me to drink are Halloween and my in-laws. :

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WHat is considered 'many'?
I consider four many. 2-3 is the average number of kids nowadays, and the MoM places that have requirements for membership (GCM's Large Family board for example) starts out at four.

However, if you feel like you have many children, you're free to participate here.

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Hi MommyAnne, we cross-posted. I have a Charlotte and a daughter that was born in Feb.

As to veg Thanksgiving you will be surprised at where all the meat is - green beans, dressing, lard in the pie crust (esp if not homemade), bacon bits in the salad, broth in the mashed potatoes, etc. Not eating turkey is the easy part.

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Yeah- we have several moms of four (one still safely, quietly contained on the inside. Not contributing to the noise levels, laundry, clutter levels or any of the other associations with manydom) here. Including me.
Personally, after today, I feel the need to put the other three back inside too. It might hurt a bit, but it would be so worth it
Oh- no Thanksgiving here, but we have bonfire night, which is WAY cooler. Celebrating the Great British Anarchist.

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Is it to early for a mom of many christmas question? I hope not.

So how do you handle christmas gifts with lots of kids. When I only had 2 kids ( and before I knew better)I went crazy buying gifts at christmas. Now I want and need to keep christmas much more low key but I don't want my kids feeling like they are getting cheated because we (dh & I) chose to have lots of kids. Plus we are not really religous so how do I put more meaning into christmas without bring a whole lot of religion into it?
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Personally, after today, I feel the need to put the other three back inside too. It might hurt a bit, but it would be so worth it
Sorry to hear that

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Oh- no Thanksgiving here, but we have bonfire night, which is WAY cooler. Celebrating the Great British Anarchist.
Yay! Where we go they still burn the guy - here's a pic that ds1 took of him on top of the bonfire last year http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v7...t/IMGP1208.jpg
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Hi all. I'm a single mom with almost 4 kids. I still have one tucked inside too. My biggest worry about the baby is where he/she is going to sleep.

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What are your plans for Thanksgiving?
I am hosting Thanksgiving here because we don't have a car. I am cooking for my sister, her husband and their two kids, plus my mom and dad and goodness knows who else.

I'm sort of looking forward to it. I love cooking. I just hate cleaning.
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On the topic of turkey - I'm so excited to be celebrating American Thanksgiving this year! My family is coming up from the States. And I get real Thanksgiving dinner. My hubby is Lebanese, and we always celebrate with his family, and they do not eat traditional Thanksgiving dinner.
what do they serve?

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Well, I only have five. Only. I have just gotten over feeling like a troop of circus clowns as one after the other climbs out of the van.

that is so right on target!


I only have 4 and hang out here.


veggie Thanksgiving: have you checked out the veg forum on mdc? I'm sure there are archives and I bet they are talking about it now.


I thought I was hosting Thanksgiving for dh's side, but fil's girlfriend offered to cook. I'm leaning towards that.

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I hope I can join. I have five now and due any day with another. Six sounds so nice. I love even numbers of children! lol! There is not a single person I know in real life that has as many children as me and my husband do.

For christmas we always remember the spirit and a few religious aspects although our family is more spiritual than religious. I get a few gifts that they can all share- last year was a ps2 with dance,dance revolution and sing star games. those were a big hit! plus they did get a few personal gifts each. this year we are going for muzzy spanish as the big gift. they all want to learn spanish. i am also thinking about a big trampoline with net and maybe year passes to busch gardens since we live in driving distance and will only be about $45 each for a gift that gives the whole rest of they year and adds no clutter to the house!
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Ah. I'm cold. My nearly 2yo hates fireworks (thus proving that she is in fact a changeling and the fairies are about to come and take her back, replacing her with a boy with eczema and allergies who doesn't sleep). She's just spent an hour in the carrier on my back with her arms round my neck shouting happy, happy happy, no,no,no, and NOT in a good way. I need to teach her more emotion words

We've been late for school every day this week. One part of me is seriously close to homeschooling, the other thinks I'll mess that up too

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Hey..we are here, but someone is crying (ok, screeching, but whatever)...
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Flapjack, for some reason I thought you did homeschool. I hope tomorrow is better day. Some days I think dd1's biggest reason to homeschool is that she doesn't like to get up early.

Dh is out with my two oldest and some friends while am at home on Saturday night with the others. I feel so overworked and alone. All I wanted was for the bath water to stay in the tub. Is that asking so much?

For Thanksgiving I try to make a special meal that is not just Turkey Day without the turkey. We plan up a special menu and go from there. One year we simply made everyone's favorites. It was such a hodge-podge.

As to Christmas, I was going to do a couple family gifts and stockings but then the big gifts added up to more that I thought so I am still thinking. We do tend to keep it small mostly because I hate the frenzy and deadline.

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Plus we are not really religous so how do I put more meaning into christmas without bring a whole lot of religion into it?
I hope I'm not being rude, but why celebrate a holiday centered around the birth of Christ if you don't believe in him? I'm Christian myself, and while other religions have holidays I think are cool, I don't celebrate them because they're not from our religious tradition.

As far as gifts with many, we're giving each kid three gifts at our house this year. Jesus got three, and so will they. (Of course, they'll be getting more from extended family)

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All I wanted was for the bath water to stay in the tub. Is that asking so much?
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somedays it is....

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As far as gifts with many, we're giving each kid three gifts at our house this year. Jesus got three, and so will they. (Of course, they'll be getting more from extended family)
I just might steal that idea! (If you don't mind!)

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I hope I'm not being rude, but why celebrate a holiday centered around the birth of Christ if you don't believe in him? I'm Christian myself, and while other religions have holidays I think are cool, I don't celebrate them because they're not from our religious tradition.
Santa isn't a christian thing so I imagine there are lots of people who celebrate for non-religious reasons. Plus, Jesus wasn't actually even born on christmas, that day was chosen because many important religious holidays were traditionally celebrated around that time so the church felt it would be easier to convert people.

We celebrate a culturally inspired version of xmas that has nothing to do with religion on xmas day. We infuse it with our practice of gratitude and our appreciation of the return of light, the passing of the solstice, and we show respect for ALL the religions that feel this time of year is special, significant, or holy. Tolerance is important to us.


 

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We celebrate a culturally inspired version of xmas that has nothing to do with religion on xmas day. We infuse it with our practice of gratitude and our appreciation of the return of light, the passing of the solstice, and we show respect for ALL the religions that feel this time of year is special, significant, or holy. Tolerance is important to us.
Yeah, pretty much that here too, but FRM said it better than me. It has to be said, though, this isn't the right week to discuss cultural imperialism and appropriation of religious holidays with me, the unbridled marketing scam that is Samhain, Celtic New Year still rankles. My favourite sabbat and once family holiday is, apparently, all about dressing up, getting sweets and scaring people. Yeah, right :

mommajb, the boys are in mainstream schooling, but I keep thinking about taking them out. We've always considered ourselves homeschoolers who do school as well, but I think we need to get off the fence. I'm not sure an inability to get out of the house on time in the morning is really the best reason, though.

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I admire you homeschoolers. dd1 can get a stubborn streak for us and does better with an outside teacher. We prefer that and then to supplement her learning on weekends and holidays.

Then again, we have a really good school system that I feel comfortable having her in.

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mommajb, the boys are in mainstream schooling, but I keep thinking about taking them out. We've always considered ourselves homeschoolers who do school as well, but I think we need to get off the fence. I'm not sure an inability to get out of the house on time in the morning is really the best reason, though.
I totally understand, while this may be the #1 reason my dd hs it is not ky main reason. It might be on the list though.

FreeRangeMama, thank you so much for answering the holiday question. I was way too tired to figure it out while nak last night.

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