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#241 of 248 Old 11-17-2007, 08:47 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Shouldn't he be in love with his WIFE, not his stepdaughter? :
OMG! That's IT. That is what it feels like. It seems like he has a marriage with a kid, and not with his wife. She seems oblivious to it.
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And mom getting drunk early? Her kid was away for the weekend and it was her night off -- not going to judge her for that.
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No, sadly, that didn't bother me. LOL.

I was a bit put off by the way she spoke to him though. Even if *I* hate the guy, it isn't appropriate to insult him like that in front of others. She wasn't at all nice to him. It is the type of behaviour you save for your own home behind closed doors.


Other than that, I actually really like her.
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No, sadly, that didn't bother me. LOL.

I was a bit put off by the way she spoke to him though. Even if *I* hate the guy, it isn't appropriate to insult him like that in front of others. She wasn't at all nice to him. It is the type of behaviour you save for your own home behind closed doors.


Other than that, I actually really like her.
Are you SURE it wasn't joking? Others would and have thought that DP and I were being cruel to one another at various times, but that's just how we joke around. We sound serious, but we're not.

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ugh, just read through the thread. the OP totally freaks me out & sets off warning bells. I'm so glad you're working towards some sort of relationship with this family- the family dynamic sounds very, um, off. I so hope nothing is happening to this child :
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I just found this thread today and read through *most* of it...especially the OP's updates.

I agree with a lot of people that she is basing her concern on more than just a *feeling* He's obviously made others uncomfortable with his behaviour so there has to be more to it.

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legally innocent yes, but even an investigation would make him suspected and the recipient of uncomfortable stares
who do you think will invite the 'suspected child abuser' to the next barbecue? or let their kid have a sleepover at him house?
I don't understand how an investigation would taint his reputation forever unless he plans to go barking around town about it. Otherwise no one would even know unless something comes to fruition from the investigation.

I also read a comment about how the OP could read a child as being uncomfortable without knowing her. The same way we all read emotions. That's why there are smileys depicting certain expressions and posters with faces and the emotions to match. People can be pretty easy to read whether you know them well or not.

I hope for the little girl's sake that they are just a bit high drama and maybe a little weird but I'd flip if someone touched my daughter like that. Husband or not, bio dad or not....a child's boundaries need to be respected without her having to beg for it.

Just my 2 cents worth.
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Are you SURE it wasn't joking? Others would and have thought that DP and I were being cruel to one another at various times, but that's just how we joke around. We sound serious, but we're not.
No. I am the most sarcastic and dry person I know. But, this was disrespect. We weren't a full block away when she told me that she set the kitchen in fire "but Dumba$$ wants to make the owner think he set it on fire". Which I agree with. What a stupid idea, since the owner would need to claim it on his insurance anyway. But, even if I think my husband is the worst person on earth on any given day... I would never disrespect him in front of others.
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No. I am the most sarcastic and dry person I know. But, this was disrespect. We weren't a full block away when she told me that she set the kitchen in fire "but Dumba$$ wants to make the owner think he set it on fire". Which I agree with. What a stupid idea, since the owner would need to claim it on his insurance anyway. But, even if I think my husband is the worst person on earth on any given day... I would never disrespect him in front of others.
Eh, either would I.. but I've known many people who have no problems "telling it like it is" to others. Just a different way of being I suppose.

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No. I am the most sarcastic and dry person I know. But, this was disrespect. We weren't a full block away when she told me that she set the kitchen in fire "but Dumba$$ wants to make the owner think he set it on fire". Which I agree with. What a stupid idea, since the owner would need to claim it on his insurance anyway. But, even if I think my husband is the worst person on earth on any given day... I would never disrespect him in front of others.
Gotcha.

And agreed, it is a stupid thing to do.

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