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#121 of 137 Old 11-25-2007, 09:57 PM
 
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I'm so thrilled that it worked out for you and DS!!! Still sending positive vibes about the lessons and payments!
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Another update: Spoke with music director at church. He's too busy to give lessons.

Going to call the music school in the morning.

Edited to add: I took a pic of ds watching another boy play the piano at church today. I took the pic with my cell phone though so the quality is bad. If I can upload it, I'll post a link.
Ds was so enthralled!
I told him that I'm hoping to get him the digital piano and his eyes got all teary and he jumped up and down and squealed with joy.

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I put a pic of ds in my Momspace of him watching a boy at church play the piano.


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how cruel and heartless of your ex. i'm sooo sorry. hugs to you and your sweet son... you will figure out a way i'm sure of it.

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hugs to you and your sweet son
Thanks. Hugs are good.

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what a beautiful boy.

i'm so glad your mom came through.......and you'll find the lessons. Is there a "Time Dollar" network near you? or the barter group on CL might have something.....

hugs for you and your little one.

i struggle with dd's fathers' broken promises and games. its so frustrating. for me I have to just remember to not expect much, then we aren't disappointed.

OT....at least your thread wasn't moved to parents as partners:
hugs for that, too

proverbs 29:7 the righteous care about justice for the poor, but the wicked have no such concern.

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Don't think I've heard of Time Dollar network.

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This is my travelling thead. It's gone from TAO, to Single Parenting, to here. LOL.

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Update: My mom ordered it for me and even though it was past the sale time, they gave her the sale price because she tried calling for hours!!

I'll have to pay her back (starting with a hefty first payment of $100) but at least ds will have it.

Now I have to wait til the 26th to contact the music school about financial aid and setting up lessons. I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to pay for these lessons but I'll make it work somehow!

I love my boy.
I am so glad that things are working out... it sounds like you have really called it to you, kwim? Keep up the positive manifestation!

I skipped a few posts, but was surprised to read that you and dad are ex's... is this a new development?
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I skipped a few posts, but was surprised to read that you and dad are ex's... is this a new development?
Why are you surprised? No, it's not new...It's been like that since I was a couple months pregnant.

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Surprised because in the OP it read (to me, and consider the source, I have ADHD, and don't always catch the details....) like you were co-parenting as a unit... I read it like this was a conflict in your home, a decision that had been made by a dh, not an ex, kwim?

It's hard when you put work into parenting one way, and the other parent isn't co-parenting with the same basic model. I'm sorry. :
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Nope, he's not my partner and we were never married. And he doesn't live with me.
(thank goodness).

Ok, enough about that.

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I haven't read through all of the responses, but I just wanted to ask if you've tried music students. When I was in college, most of us in the music school gave lessons pretty cheaply. (Heh, how much are Ramen noodles?) That may be a less expensive route to take.

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Another update: Spoke with music director at church. He's too busy to give lessons.

Wait -- you spoke with both the music director at church and the pastor and this is as compassionate a response as you got? No offer to find someone else, or some suggestions of where to turn? Our music director doesn't teach either, but he certainly would have offered a dozen contacts or more so you could find someone who could help you. No offer of odd-hours work for the church to earn the money? No offer of discretionary money from pastor to help buy the instrument? Nothing like that!?!?! You said you were a new member ... have you considered finding a more compassionate church? I'm really disappointed to hear that they weren't more helpful.

Since your son needs a teacher with experience with special needs, perhaps there is some sort of special-needs funding sources you can tap? The idea of trying for a teacher who is studying music therapy or similar sounded good too. But I'm wondering if there aren't some sort of special grants you might be able to tap into. Maybe a local (or not so local) music school would know? Or any agency or therapist you have worked with? Someone on the special needs forum here? Since you need a teacher with special skills, there must be some way to turn that into an advantage.
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Well, I'm waiting to hear back from a local music school. I don't know if they have experience teaching special needs children but that's one of my questions. They also offer financial aid so I will see how much it will end up costing me.

Yeah, the church music director was not helpful at all. I was disappointed.
If the music school financial aid isn't enough, I'll go back to my minister and talk to her about this.

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Update: My mom's coming on Saturday (from across the country) and I don't have the money for the keyboard to give her. Doh!

Spoke with a few piano teachers. The lowest price I got so far was the assistant music director at church and she charges $25/30 minutes. I'd have to go to her place though. I don't think it's going to be an option. My car is having SERIOUS problems so I think I need to find someone to come to us.

I've put the search off until January though.

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You teach him the basics. There are books, videos and websites.
Good-luck!

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