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View Poll Results: How would you feel if your kids grow up to be gay?
Thrilled--more gay is more better. 49 6.26%
Nonplussed--as long as they're happy, I'm good. 492 62.84%
Okay--I'd rather they were straight, but whatever. 132 16.86%
Disappointed--I think being gay is wrong and I don't want that for my kids. 82 10.47%
Angry--I'm so appalled by considering it that I can't imagine what I'd feel. 4 0.51%
Other, please explain 24 3.07%
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Old 01-22-2008, 12:05 PM - Thread Starter
 
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You can say more about your vote in a post, but don't feel obligated.
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As long as they're happy.... I'm good
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Hm. I want to know more from "other."
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Hm. I want to know more from "other."
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are you including bi in gay? I think I'd say between thrilled and non-plussed.
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I voted "nonplussed." I really hope that by the time my DD is old enough to start dating and/or choose a partner, it really won't be a big deal as to who she chooses or why she made her choice.

It's my sincerest hope that we get to a point in the future where there won't be any pejorative connotations to any sexual orientation. I'm sure that must sound totally naive, but hey, that's my hope.
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are you including bi in gay? I think I'd say between thrilled and non-plussed.
Yeah, I used "gay" as an umbrella term. I'm old.
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Just ... "nonplussed" means "taken aback." So even though "as long as they're happy ..." was my answer, it was hard to vote "nonplussed," because I wouldn't be.

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Just ... "nonplussed" means "taken aback." So even though "as long as they're happy ..." was my answer, it was hard to vote "nonplussed," because I wouldn't be.
Yeah, in proper terms it means surprised, taken aback. But in American common usage it means not bothered.
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Yeah, in proper terms it means surprised, taken aback. But in American common usage it means not bothered.
Sorry about that--I was intending the second use and I can't edit the poll.
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I voted "okay". I honestly believe as long as my kids are happy, but I fear how they would be treated if they were gay. I remember being told over and over and over again "Don't let others bring you down because your fat". Well everytime someone made a horrible comment about me being fat, it really felt like a knife right to the heart. I would cry and cry. I just want my kids to have an easy upbringing. I don't want them to get made fun of. Of course I would teach them to carry themselves high and not worry about what others think, but that didn't work for me.
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I voted the 3rd option.

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Thanks for the poll. , says I in a nonplussed sort of way.
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i have 3 boys. i could care less if 2 turned out gay. i want at least one strait child who will give my a grandbaby, preferable a girl. i'm not that demanding am i?

i REALLY hope DH never sees this. he and i are very different on this topic. he doesn't want any of our children to be gay.

i would be a little upset if the day ever comes that they sit me down and reveal to me, but i would not be upset at them. it would be more of an upset for them. not that my DH would condem them or tell them they are no longer in the family. Just because i know he would be disapointed.
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I voted "as long as they're happy".

But I want to move towards "thrilled".

I have always told my ds that if he gets married it might be to a woman or to a man. I think that he is gay and I want him to feel accepted unconditionally.
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Nonplussed. (I like that word.)
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i have 3 boys. i could care less if 2 turned out gay. i want at least one strait child who will give my a grandbaby, preferable a girl.
My cousin, R, is gay. He and his partner have a four-year old son and recently adopted newborn twins. Gay doesn't equal "nonparent."
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i have 3 boys. i could care less if 2 turned out gay. i want at least one strait child who will give my a grandbaby, preferable a girl. i'm not that demanding am i?

i REALLY hope DH never sees this. he and i are very different on this topic. he doesn't want any of our children to be gay.

i would be a little upset if the day ever comes that they sit me down and reveal to me, but i would not be upset at them. it would be more of an upset for them. not that my DH would condem them or tell them they are no longer in the family. Just because i know he would be disapointed.
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i have 3 boys. i could care less if 2 turned out gay. i want at least one strait child who will give my a grandbaby, preferable a girl. i'm not that demanding am i?
As frog said...why would being gay = no kids?
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My cousin, R, is gay. He and his partner have a four-year old son and recently adopted newborn twins. Gay doesn't equal "nonparent."
Gay couples can't adopt (nor foster) in Utah. Just FTR.

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Gay couples can't adopt (nor foster) in Utah. Just FTR.
But we can get knocked up in any state of the union.

Well, theoretically, anyway. <glares at own chart>
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ohhh i would be so happy. so happy. straight, gay, bi, trannie. i wouldnt be sad with any of it.

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It was a touch choice between the first two for me. I ultimately chose non plussed.

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I chose nonpulssed as well, but am actually sitting a hair towards thrilled.

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i hope my grrls are instilled with a greater sense of self-worth than the capacity & functionality of their uterus.
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You know, it would depend. I think if I had a daughter, I'd be thrilled if she were a lesbian, and if I had a son, I'd be happier if he were straight. Why? To keep both of them out of the hands of abusive men.
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You know, it would depend. I think if I had a daughter, I'd be thrilled if she were a lesbian, and if I had a son, I'd be happier if he were straight. Why? To keep both of them out of the hands of abusive men.
i hear that.
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