My DS love the toy kitchen set a friend has for her 2 year old son and 4year old girl, and i've been wanting go get him one soon before March, so i told DH if next week we can go and look for a toy kitchen and he said, no, becuase toy kitchen is for girls and buying him one wil be "gay".
BTW, DS is 2.
Unassisted birthing, atheist, poly, bi WOHM to 4 wonderful, smart homeschooling kids Wes (14) Seth (7) Pandora Moonlilly (2) and Nevermore Stargazer (11/2012) Married to awesome SAH DH.
Some of the best chefs in the world are men. Gordon Ramsay? Yum! Definitely not gay.
I dated a chef in college- definitely not gay.
We have a play kitchen and it has been the one toy that all three of my children have enjoyed (two girls and one boy).
I find it fascinating that a toy can be gay or make a kid gay (a bedazzled tutu couldn't do it either I imagine).
If you plan on having more kids, and you have a girl, is your husband going to cordon off the section of girl's toys and not let your son play with them?
I am very proud that my 4 year old son knows the recipe for pancakes, knows how to make shepard's pie, and loves to eat new foods that my dh makes for us. He is "chef Anthony" in the kitchen and of all his preschool classmates, he was the ONLY one who could name all the vegetables the teacher showed.
Cooking is one of the finer arts in life - one I am thankful my children are showing an interest in early on.
Oh, and a piece of plastic is not going to influence the sexual orientation of my children.
I am not even sure where to start with the rampant homophobia in the entire premise.
If your husband wants the child to do daddyish rather than mommyish pretend play, he can buy him a workbench. The main thing is that two year olds like to open and close doors and hide things in the cabinet. (Am I right? Isn't that what he likes in the friends' kitchen set? You put the play food in the little microwave or fridge and shut the door, hooray! Again and again.) You can accomplish the same thing if you have a kitchen drawer that you can free up and fill with plastic vessels. he'll come empty it out and fill it up again!
Gosh, I love two year olds. It's fun that my kid is five now but I love hanging out with our friends' two year old sometimes. So much language acquisition. Tell your husband to stop worrying and start enjoying.
Divorced mom of one awesome boy born 2-3-2003.
Has he (Dh) ever used a stove? Scrambled an egg? Boiled macaroni? Ask him if he's gay.
And even if it could "make him gay", which it cannot... why would that be bad?
Embrace the learning that is happening within the things that are actually happening!
He cooks and cleans around the house, though he doesn't want to the world to know(oops i think i just said it)
Thanks mammas,forgive him, he's just a 40 year old guy raised into a very male and female stereotype thing, boys dress in blue and girls in pink, etc.
Thanks for the advice
and lmao to this:
|What if reading a website called "Mothering" makes him gay?|
#1. Has such rigid gender stereotypes.
#2. Thinks that a TOY will make an individual homosexual or not.
#3. Is so homophobic as to be afraid of a toy making an individual homosexual.
really though I think your DH is kinda past silly
All men who have made their names in kitchens. There's many more. Way more than women, that's for sure.
1. Having a toy kitchen will not turn your child gay.
2. There is nothing wrong with being gay anyway.
3. Stop associating the kitchen with femaleness.
4. We're not living in the Dark Ages, men and women both cook
I wouldn't marry a man who wouldn't cook and I don't want daughters-in-law who would either.
Plus, it's just fun for the kids.
Plus, my husband learned how to cook because he'd heard a newsradio article that did a survey on single men ... according to the article, the most, ahem, "successful" dates happened as a direct result of going to the girlfriend's apartment to cook her dinner. Before (and, yes, up to) dating me, DH claimed a 100 percent "success" rate with this particular technique.
Needless to say, he is no longer allowed to cook in any household but our own
(The way I read it, the father hasn't expressed that he thinks having a play kitchen will make his son homosexual. He's using 'gay' as a descriptive term for something that is not desirable. Not that it's any better.)
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