|Originally posted by momea
...Another example - I don't let my child stand on chairs. But it's OUR rule for heaven's sake - I'd never even think to ask another child to sit down in their chair if their parent was right there and it was obviously fine with them!
Umm, in general, I agree with you. HOWEVER, some things are just safety issues.
An example: I have a big old (antique) mahogany club chair at one end of the living room in front of a HUGE beveled glass framed mirror. OK, maybe not totally kid safe, but the mirror IS bolted to the wall at all corners and the chair is not normally very close to the mirror. A girlfriend's daughter was with her one day and TOTALLY hyper. Sugar, or whatever.
: She was jumping on and off all the furniture and I wasn't saying anything about it to the child, though I did say to the mother that jumping on furniture is not appropriate (or something like that...no snottiness in my voice, just the words). Finally, the little girl starts taking running jumps onto this chair, throwing herself into it. It starts creeping towards the mirror (it is on casters). I moved it away from the mirror. She moves it into position again and the second time she does it, I see the chair tip slightly. I say out loud to the girl not to do it as it is dangerous (she's five, old enough to know the word
: ) Her mother says the same again and then the girl DOES IT AGAIN! And the chair tips farther and I'm envisioning broken glass and a busted skull from the HEAVY chair (that thing would probably survive an atom bomb). So, I look at the mother and she sees my expression and says "Well, I can't do anything with her, she's just like her father!" And as her daughter takes another leap, I manage to catch her before she goes into the chair and I am holding her as she screams and is kicking and I held her out for her mother and said: She cannot be here if she is going to do this.
NOW, I want you to know, I don't give a hoot about the chair, or the mirror or the upholstery or whatever material thing....but, doing things to furniture that are not what they were designed for IS DANGEROUS and, if someone is going to allow it, they should only do so in their own home, not other people's. No one wants to see someone hurt, nor to have it happen at their home. And, plus, these days, YOU CAN BE SUED EVEN IF THE PARENT WAS THERE AND DIDN'T SAY A BLESSED THING.
Ontoh, most people get on one's case about allowing something that isn't obviously dangerous (like flying 5 year olds and a big heavy mirror), it just doesn't fit into their world view.