I'll be honest, it's HARD. My first baby was so hn that there was no way I was having another anytime soon. He was 11 when he got siblings. Part of that was my divorce, being single etc and then finally meeting dh. DD came along and was one of those really easy babies, so ds2 came 19mos later. I cried everyday for several weeks. Having two kids that close no matter what is very hard. Now that they are five and three however, they are bestfriends, playmates, they have none of the lonliness ds1 did. Yes, they fight, but they do everything togather and cry if the other one isnt around> They potty trained togather,both avoided then both started climbing on playlands at the same time etc. But I coudlnt do that close again so ds3 is 28mos younger than ds2. THis is my limit I think. DS2 is hn in the active category see my post in this thread: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=860416
and ds3 is a velcro baby, in other words, if Im not holding him he is screeching and screaming. So, lots of stuff doesnt get done. It drives me crazy the mess we live in these days but I often cant just drop ds3 to clean up after ds2 and so it stays this way until dh decided to clean or fil takes ds3 for a nap on a day im off work.
IM not saying dont do it. I am very glad to have every one of mine. Just know that it will be difficult. If you are of the "do it quick and get these years behind you"type, then by allmeans, do so. But ifyour marriage is already suffering under the strain of one hn kid, just be sure it can survive two. Even if the next is a calm, easy baby, its still stressful trying to juggle two. Now, the older they get the easier it is as they become more independant. If you wait, then you have two kids whose interests are far apart, its nice that my three little ones all enjoy splash pools, thomas the tank engine, the park etc. Its very hard to find anythign to do which they and my 16yr old will enjoy. So there are pros and cons both ways.
For my own saneity, I have had to let a lot of things go, like having a clean house or being able to cook dinner every night. are you a person who can do that if you have to? And what about your dh? If so, then go for it. I mean, at the bottom of it all, what is your gut impulse? I mean, when I wanted another baby, that was that for me, I think with my heart which may or may not be good!! I think its good. Only you can really decide whats right for you, there is no one answer that works for everyone. Good luck!