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#91 of 407 Old 10-25-2008, 05:52 AM
 
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Hey I'm not 40, I'm actually 23 but I wanted to add that my mom is 43 and her and my dad have a daughter (my sister) who is 5 weeks younger then my oldest son. She will be 2 on November 20th
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Thanks for the welcome! I look forward to getting caught up on reading this thread!

One of my first thoughts after becoming pregnant at 38 1/2 was "ok, now I can turn 40!" I'd love to have one or two more babies, we'll see. I'm a single mama, so just focusing on this one right now! Since becoming pregnant, I've learned so much, and I'm happy to know that my childbearing years are definitely not over!

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You know, it's funny, my reason for having my three little ones so close was to have them and be done because I "dont wanna be having babies when Im forty". But here I am nearly forty with my youngest under two. I would think that, more than age, having had four healthy children, would be an indicator of my ability to have another one, wouldnt it? With my youngest, I did the level two u/s because I was "high risk". It showed a white spot on his brain,they didnt know what it was, so I went over for a fetal mri (didnt even know they did those) which, a mere week later, showed nothing. So I had to do another u/s which showed...nothing. But the amount of stress it put me through? Even after follow up was normal, I was still holding my breath, ya know?

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I second that emotion! It's good to see you over here!
Thank you! Im staying out of that other thread for a day or two.....

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Hi, I thought I'd already posted on this thread but apparently not.

Terran was born three weeks before my 43rd birthday, UC/UP all the way to avoid all that "high risk" stuff. I have two older children (19 and 16) and used to say that when i was 35 i was DONE because I did not want to be an older parent.

Well, that didn't work out.

I think what i was actually afraid of was raising a very young child while dealing with health/fitness issues. I'm active and strong and have an unusually "easy" nine month old, so that hasn't been a problem.

I wish I had enough time left to have another little one (and haven't completely ruled out that possibility yet) because I am enjoying parenthood so much more this time around.
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I know! I use to joke about how I'd be done at 40, as my oldest will be 18 the year I turn 40. And now, that same year, I'll also have kids that are 6, 4 and 2!

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Terran was born three weeks before my 43rd birthday, UC/UP all the way to avoid all that "high risk" stuff.
Oh, that's wonderful! I hope to go that route if we're blessed to have another (I'm 44). I was 40 when I had dd2, and I was UP until I started seeing a midwife in the third trimester, then dd2 was born at home a few minutes before our midwife arrived (but I had friends there, one of them a trained doula -- so it still wasn't exactly a UC).

Dh and I felt very empowered by this whole experience, so it's pretty likely we'll be aiming for UP/UC if I do get pregnant again.

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You know, it's funny....with both pregnancies, I expected some reference to "high risk" because of my age--40 the first time, 44 now--and it just hasn't happened. In fact, the only time my age has come up this time was when my OB said he hadn't expected to see me again, after all this time, but only because conceiving without intervention at my age is a lot harder. So we agreed it was a good thing and nothing more's been said.

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You know, it's funny....with both pregnancies, I expected some reference to "high risk" because of my age--40 the first time, 44 now--and it just hasn't happened. In fact, the only time my age has come up this time was when my OB said he hadn't expected to see me again, after all this time, but only because conceiving without intervention at my age is a lot harder. So we agreed it was a good thing and nothing more's been said.
That's great! So, maybe all the "high risk" treatment is centered around 40+ women who needed help conceiving? Are pregnancies more high-risk if you need intervention to get pregnant in the first place?

I'm 44, I'll be 45 this May -- so maybe, if I get pregnant and stay pregnant, I'll actually be seen as super-healthy by the medical establishment (even though I'm obese) -- simply because I got pregnant, "at my age," without any help.

Still, I don't know if my curiosity is worth the risk of seeing a doctor just to find out how they'd treat me!

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I'm actually inclined to think that it varies from practice to practice. Though I did read in a magazine, ahem, for expectant women over 40--Plum?--that "45 is the new 35."

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I'm actually inclined to think that it varies from practice to practice. Though I did read in a magazine, ahem, for expectant women over 40--Plum?--that "45 is the new 35."
I love it!

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You can add me, too. I will turn 48 in a few weeks. We have two daughters ages 5 and 7.
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noordinaryspider Your birth story is amazing :

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I updated everyone on the first thread post just now

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I'm actually inclined to think that it varies from practice to practice. Though I did read in a magazine, ahem, for expectant women over 40--Plum?--that "45 is the new 35."
Woohoo, this means I'm 33.

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I am 41 and due in May with #5. We have an almost 14yo, almost 12yo, 9yo and almost 2yo.
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Hi
I just found this thread (well, the new one), so I want to join in!
I'm 41, and am the birthmom of a dd who is 21 (she was placed for adoption as an infant) and have two ds's at home, one just turned 4 (on the 4th) and the other one is 6 months old today.
Yesterday ds 1 asked if he could have a little sister, but I'm not sure we're ready to deal with that!
eta (My real name is Sue...and I'm a university prof. I'm also interested in a variety of sports, playing violin, veg*n cooking and belly dance!)

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May I join? My info is in my siggy but I'll include it here: My name is Karen (47), DH Larry (51), DD Lorraine is 20, DS Winston is 18, DS Kevin is 2y10m, DSS Chris is 23 and DSD Michelle is 20. We are currently TTC a younger brother or sister for Kevin. I conceived Kevin naturally, our second cycle trying, and he was born about 2 months after my 44th birthday. I have had two early losses since he was born but we're still trying!!

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Jennifer congratulations on your pregnancy!! Are you in the May DDC? I was there for about 8 wks, I'm hoping to be a long-standing member of the Feb. 09 DDC

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May I join? My info is in my siggy but I'll include it here: My name is Karen (47), DH Larry (51), DD Lorraine is 20, DS Winston is 18, DS Kevin is 2y10m, DSS Chris is 23 and DSD Michelle is 20. We are currently TTC a younger brother or sister for Kevin. I conceived Kevin naturally, our second cycle trying, and he was born about 2 months after my 44th birthday. I have had two early losses since he was born but we're still trying!!
That's great you conceived naturally at 43!! I've also been pregnant three times (first month trying) over 40, although two ended in m/c. I'm not giving up though and definitely don't listen to the grim statistics about over 40 fertility rates. Right now there are 3 or 4 47yo's at my OB's office that conceived naturally.

Karen, here's some positive baby vibes comin' your way...:

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Thanks! I was talking to my OB the other day and he told me that his partner just delivered a healthy baby girl whose Mom was 52! I KNOW I have some good eggs left somewhere in me!

Karen 48 DH 53, DD 22, DS1 20, DS2 4, DSS 24, DSD 21
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I KNOW I have some good eggs left somewhere in me!
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EXACTLY that's just what I think too

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Yes I've also been lurking in the May DDC. I kept meaning to post somewhere but seems like everytime I get both hands free I can't think of anything to say. I was happy to find this group though since this time round I do feel tired and old Im hoping it was just first trimester stuff and Im still nursing. We were quite suprised by this pregnancy and are finally feeling like its going to stick around.

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Jennifer - How far along are you?

Karen 48 DH 53, DD 22, DS1 20, DS2 4, DSS 24, DSD 21
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Hi!
So glad I found this thread! I'm Be-I'm 44 yo.have one dd 3.7 yo.I miscarried last year at almost same time I conceived again naturally this October .I'm dueJune 30 ish/early July and am soooo excited.I'll be taking natural progesterone likely through first trimester to help sustain progesterone levels hoping this may help prevent early m/c-after 1st tri -placenta will take over the role of maintaining progesterone production.I'm looking forward to participating more /sharing more but dd beckons me.
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: Welcome and congratulations!!!

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So glad I found this thread! I'm Be-I'm 44 yo.have one dd 3.7 yo.I miscarried last year at almost same time I conceived again naturally this October .I'm dueJune 30 ish/early July and am soooo excited.I'll be taking natural progesterone likely through first trimester to help sustain progesterone levels hoping this may help prevent early m/c-after 1st tri -placenta will take over the role of maintaining progesterone production.I'm looking forward to participating more /sharing more but dd beckons me.
Be and congratulations

I took natural trouche progesterone this last time, it worked too. I had the Hcg and prog test every week starting at 4wks and it increased from 11 - 20-something before I had a m/c. I'm pretty sure the m/c was chromosomal though nothing to do with prog. I've read so many positive stories about older women taking prog. during the first tri. So good for you Are you seeing a midwife or OB?

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Wow! welcome being, athansor, Verygoddess, kbhlmh and Treasuremapper!
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Thanks for such a warm welcome!This is the first pregnancy I've taken progesterone -originally prescribed by midwife for"luteal phase defect" The data is mixed /veiwpoints controvertial w respect to prescibing to" older "moms who have had one or more early miscarriages...but I had good results taking it to alleviate severe pms due to fibroids in my 20's.I am currently seeing an o.b at an all women's type practice ...She's aware and supportive of my birth plan =natural w/ minimal med. intervention & my doula on board....
I am concerned and sad .I started spotting =light last night -light -some cramping =menstral like w/ some back pain not identical to amount of bleeding & pain as last m/c...
light spot now only when I wipe .spoke w/ Dr. on call who said I could come in for U/s blood test yada yada -thing is u/s wouldn't tell me much no heartbeat at 5.6 wks etc..I am opting to wait for scheduled u/s on Nov. 24.unless I miscarry b4 that.I'm going to put myself on restricted duty-hopefully dd will be obliging her father is working.
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This group is growing! Anyone deal with hot flashes and menopause while still nursing. I am 47 and still nurse my 3yoDD. She has food allergies so I am letting her wean when ready. My sister is an OB and has searched for info on breastfeeding through menopause, but can't find any!
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