I just wanted to 2nd or 3rd that medication is not always necessary. It depends on the situation and how debilitating the anxiety is.
Regardless, as you pointed out CityGirl, it seems like we are talking about 2 different things, Mommy anxiety and an anxiety disorder. Mommy anxiety will be there regardless and no pill will take that away and there are many avenues on working on an anxiety disorder. Unfortunately for me, I have had no luck w/counseling w/o medication, I need the medication to get me to that normal state and then counseling is extremely helpful. In fact, I was anxiety and med free for about 8 months before I conceived my son. I joined a meditation group and the anxiety came back worse than ever
Which seems to be everyone's opposite experience
Regardless, for me, in order to keep it in check I've had to make some changes in my life. We got rid of our TV and all the constant Law & Order Reruns (I think I have them all memorized) and that SVU too. Wicked! Also CSI didn't help either. I've also stopped reading scary books. This has helped tremendously, but unfortuantely I have a really good memory.
So, for now, the anxiety is in check. Whenever I start to go somewhere in my mind it helps for me to open my eyes and focus on something and remind myself that everything is fine, this is my brain doing its thing, I'm fine, my son is fine, my husband is fine. If my husband is late for some reason (not often) I also don't "allow" myself to start obsessing about it until a decent amount of time has passed. Usually he'll show up in that period anyway and I didn't waste any time worrying.
Okay, I think I'm rambling, hth some,