We would never let our little one cry and were told we were "spoiling her" and she was "manipulating us " - at 2 fricking months old !! I could like most everyone go on and on. I do think its because people feel threatened. I don't care, my daughter is fab and thats the main thing.
On day three of life (our first night home) my milk was in and I was emotional. DS cried nearly the whole night. I fed him many times and ds held him a few times. I thought my milk was not letting down so while I tried to hand pump to see if I could get things going, in tears all the while, dh said, "just give him a bottle" AHHHHHHHHHHHH!! Needless to say he never mentioned a bottle again after I got through with him.
After 1yrs we decided to start giving ds1 whole milk. When he didn't like it we didn't push it but many people told us to mix it with FORMULA so he'll get used to it. ????? Why do you think he would prefer the taste of formula to cows milk when he has never tasted formula.
I know my MIL was joking every time she said this (and she said it a more than a handful of times) but there is something wrong with even saying this in jest. Every time one of my babies would cry she would say: "Is your mommy mean to you, you can come live with us" or "Is your mommy not feeding you enough, you come live with us and we will feed you" I think dh said something b/c she has not said it in a long time. I told dh it bothered me and he said she is just kidding. I told him it is not OK to say that. He told me to say something but I said I shouldn't have to b/c I am his wife and he should be sticking up for me and my mothering skills regardless of his feelings for his mother. I do love my MIL though. I just hate her tact.
My last for now: Every time ds2 cried, and he cried a lot, someone was always there to tell me he was hungry!!! If I donated an ounce of milk for every time someone said that to me I could feed a third world country. Sorry but I think I know when my baby is hungry.
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I was told that I needed to 'milk' my newborn DS's nipples or else he would end up with MAN BOOBS
Not really advice, but one strange coment by an aquaintance when dh was new: "Oh, he looks like his Dad, that's good, so everyone will know who his father is"
I was too stunned to coment at the time, all I could think is what does that say about me, or the fact that dh and I had been together 12 years before ds came along.:
I am accosted by the hat police regularly. I'm glad to see it's not just me. Also, there seem to be a bunch of people convinced that babies should never be in direct sunlight or uncovered while outside in general.
Don't get me started on the people that couldn't/can't believe we took DD out of the house at 1,2,3 and now three months old. When are babies old enough to leave the house?!
one of the other moms at my job told me that I should give my ds more juice (i was asking her about bottles during the workday, since she *used* to nurse). "At 9 months he should be drinking at LEAST 10 oz a day of jucie," she said. Otherwise, they don't poop. " And then added, "most of the time I even give my kids teh JUICE juice, you know, like the 100% kind?"
another day we were talkign at lunch about our kids' sleep and another mom mentioned matter of factly that her son was teething again and she had started putting the fan on in the kitchen so that she wouldn't have to hear him cry when she put him to sleep at night. lovely.
Very blessed mama to one bouncin' boy (12/07) one who didn't get to stay (6/09), one potty learning, mess making diva(4/10), and one cheerful milk monster. (12/11) Happy partner to the love of my life.
wife to wonderful mama of three-DS1 born December 30, 2005 and DS2 born September 27, 2008 and one lovely little girl born September 7, 2011
On cloth diapering-"We'll see how long that lasts."
On telling someone that my 1 week old had a cluster feeding session last night (I wasn't complaining about the 5 hours of nursing, just observing that she is eating well)--"You don't want her hanging off you when she's four years old"
On picking up my three day old from her pack and play (in the kitchen) as soon as I finished eating, even though she wasn't crying--"why did you do that?" oh, I don't know--maybe I just want to hold the baby that barely three days ago was INSIDE of me.
It drives me NUTS!
Just a squeaky girl in a squeaky world.
I've also been told just circumsize and vaccinate because everyone does it.