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I was walking down the street on a nice sunny day with my 6 month old when a woman stopped me to tell me that he was squinting. Since then I've been trying to compile a list of all the most annoying comments or advice that moms have heard...Give me your worst! And if you have any nice comebacks, I'd love to hear them too!
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I hear "when they are old enough to ask for it (nursing), then its time to stop!. I have herd that twice in the past 3 days.:

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"You're going to regret that."

Doesn't matter what I've heard it for. It annoys me each time. I heard it about co-sleeping. I heard it about carrying him around instead of letting him scream. I heard it about breastfeeding.

Haven't regretted one yet.

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Guy at the corner store: "You need to put a hat on him, babies catch all kinds of diseases through their heads"

Me: "Thanks doc"

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I was walking down the street on a nice sunny day with my 6 month old when a woman stopped me to tell me that he was squinting. Since then I've been trying to compile a list of all the most annoying comments or advice that moms have heard...Give me your worst! And if you have any nice comebacks, I'd love to hear them too!

I was breastfeeding my son at the gym's daycare center before going to work out and the woman working there said "are you sure he's latched on right?".

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umm, yeah

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Guy at the corner store: "You need to put a hat on him, babies catch all kinds of diseases through their heads"

Me: "Thanks doc"
Oh man I really hate that one and I've heard it several times, mostly that my child will drop dead of pneumonia if I don't get a hat on their head immediately. A woman at the train station became quite aggressive about it, basically ordering me to put a hat on my baby. I explained that she was fine and that cold weather doesn't transmit infection, she finally walked away muttering under her breath. Thankfully the train came before she had a chance to call the cops

I've also heard the "if they're old enough to ask for it" line about nursing when my son was a toddler. Sure, let's punish children for developing language skills early by withholding comfort and nutrition.
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We chose not to give our boys fruit juice as infants (actually they've never drank juice)

My MIL (smugly) "Oh, you WILL give them juice because they won't be able to poop without it."
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I was at the grocery store with DS when he was 7 months old- he was sitting in the seat in the cart. He loved (and still does) riding in there. Some older woman followed me around telling me he was much too young to be sitting up in there! Um, he was sitting up well for over two months at that point- I'm pretty sure he wasn't too young!

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That I really needed to let my baby sleep in the bassinet so he wouldn't get attached to being held. ~ said by nurse in hospital when babe was 1 day old.

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My baby--and the rest of the population--would wind up DEAF (not dead, DEAF) without the CDC-recommended vaccination schedule. Yes, I'm sure he said DEAF. He went on and on about it. This was a doctor, a pediatrician, BTW.
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"Don't turn him gay." "You'll turn him gay doing that!"

I wish I could say it were in jest.

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2 things:
one from my mom when DD was 2 months old. "Better not feed her so often or else she will be hanging off (your boob) until she is 2" I think it had been 3 hours since she last nursed. She is totally freaked out I am still breastfeeding her at 18 months.

And I was at the mall one day, and my DD sweats like no other baby or person I have ever seen, so she had a light jacket on and it was windy and raining. If I put anything heavier on her, she takes it off. DD was laughing at the wind, she loves the wind and rain, and she was still sweating. An older woman came up to me and told me I was going to make her sick and she needed gloves and heavy coat and hat on.

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At my baby shower, my step sister when she was told why we didn't ask for bottles.
"Hah! We'll see how long that lasts."

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ohoh - I have 2 more. I actually have had a lot of rude comments, or else I am super sensitive.

When I told my family I cloth diapered - they all told me "you'll change your mind, just don't even bother" um...18 months strong and still haven't stopped

And the best - I was in wal-mart, and my baby was a chubby chubster. This cashier said "great googily moggily, what are you feeding that child" So my husband in all his proudness said "breastmilk!"
And the cashier said "you need to stop that, she is getting too fat"

Mind you this woman was obese, and had no right to tell me my 4 month old was fat!

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When I told my family I cloth diapered - they all told me "you'll change your mind, just don't even bother" um...18 months strong and still haven't stopped
When I mentioned I wanted to CD when I was pregnant my family told me I was crazy and making too much work for myself. The stupid thing was I believed them and didn't do it for the first seven months because of what they said! I love using CDs now and wish I would have not paid attention to their comments.

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Said to me by the nurse at the hospital the second day after my son was born as he was nursing and sleeping "Don't let him pacify at your breast or he will be there forever"

But the worst was said in the recovery room (I had a c-section under general ) and as I was coming to and my midwife was putting my son to my breast and he was crying the nurse in the recovery room says "He is a big baby, he needs a bottle, he's hungry" my midwife said "we will put him to the breast then" my mom said "No" and my DH said "no way" the nurse repeats "He is a big baby and needs a bottle" my midwife with voice raised "NO, there is no parental consent end of story" I am glad that my midwife was there and that nurse couldn't get her hands on DS.

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"Just make her go to sleep."
"I don't understand why you choose to let her stay awake at night."

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upon leaving the hospital with my 2 day old dd...

my husband had gone ahead to install the carseat back in the car since we needed to do a carseat test to ensure dd could go home (long story...) anyway, the nurse saw the carseat (britax roundabout) so she knew that it wasn't an infant carrier seat. when i was leaving the unit, she was all aghast that i was *gasp* CARRYING my baby. "where's the carseat? what if you drop her?" yeah, 'cause if i'm carrying her in a carseat there's no way she could possibly be dropped?!

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We chose not to give our boys fruit juice as infants (actually they've never drank juice)

My MIL (smugly) "Oh, you WILL give them juice because they won't be able to poop without it."
Oh! That reminds me of another one.

My aunt told me that I needed to give ds water as an infant because breast milk alone wasn't enough. Apparently, he would become dehydrated without bottles of water because my breast milk wasn't hydrating enough.

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When my son was 2 and still not talking:

"Just don't give him anything to eat until he asks for it. That will make him talk."

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Don't let him nurse longer than 5 minutes on each side because then your milk will be out and the baby will just suck in air, which will then give him gas.

Like my boobs had air in them?!? I got this gem of information from our family doctor (we switched doctors pretty quickly).
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Don't let him nurse longer than 5 minutes on each side because then your milk will be out and the baby will just suck in air, which will then give him gas.

Like my boobs had air in them?!? I got this gem of information from our family doctor (we switched doctors pretty quickly).
This one is cracking me up.

The worst I have received was from my husband's childless young (former) boss. With regard to our 2 month old crying inconsolably at night and how much it stressed and worried us because she had a heart problem and would have spells of cyanosis and tachypnea..."oh just let her cry it out, you can't treat her special her whole life just because she was born with a health problem." WTF.
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I was breastfeeding my son at the gym's daycare center before going to work out and the woman working there said "are you sure he's latched on right?".

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umm, yeah
At least this person was a BF supporter!

I have had so many... from my own family usually, not so much from strangers... they have sense enough to avoid me!

My dad at dinner with us and the whole family, (12 people) when dd was 6 weeks old: I had her under a light-weight black shawl, very discreetly nursing her. Dad barks "Where's the baby??............ (GASP) OH!! She's under there isn't she?? You're not doing that at hte table are you?? Ugh! Yuck! That really is not something you shoud do at the table..."
(everyone in the entire restaurant staring)
Me: "YOU eat at the table, why shouldn't she?"




My mom, just the other day:
Dd happily bounces up and starts telling my mom how she got a booboo, but nursed and felt better... "Oh, Prenna. That's awful. (sounding disgusted) That's just for babies... you're almost 4, and still nursing in the middle of the day? Ugh! Are you a baby, then? I thought you were a big girl!"

Dd looked at her, and said, "I'm still mama's baby!.......and I love the num!" I was so pleased with her reply I said nothing. Ha ha, Mom!
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"Don't turn him gay." "You'll turn him gay doing that!"

I wish I could say it were in jest.
Wow, so... what is it your doing that will turn him gay so I can blame my dad for making me find happiness with another guy.

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Wow, so... what is it your doing that will turn him gay so I can blame my dad for making me find happiness with another guy.
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--Said to me about my 2 month old first child "He is much to skinny. You need to start giving him cereal. When I had my kids, we had this special pump thing that you could force it down their throats with, I bet you could find one if you looked".

--There used to be a woman in our church who would seek us out and harrass us for lack of hats, socks, or blankets on the baby *in summer*.

--frequent comment I see in discussions: If you don't let your baby CIO and teach it to self-soothe at night, you will *never* get it out of your bed and you'll still be struggling to get a 5 yo to sleep through the night.
In spite of the fact that we semi-co-slept and I nursed on demant 24/7 through 18 months with them, my oldest two went into their own beds at 2 yo and I could count on one hand the times they've gotten out of thier beds to come to mine. They like thier bunk bed very much and have no interest in trying to squish into our very small double bed with two large grownups and a wiggly baby.
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Oh! That reminds me of another one.

My aunt told me that I needed to give ds water as an infant because breast milk alone wasn't enough. Apparently, he would become dehydrated without bottles of water because my breast milk wasn't hydrating enough.
Ok, I've never told anyone they should give babies water.....but I thought you should!! Are you talking about tiny babies or ones older than say 6 months (random age chosen there!)

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'When are you going to switch to formula?' (my dad...ds was 7 months)

Sorry dad - he EBF (no solids) until a week before his 1st bday and still nurses all the time! (15months now)

My mom did tell him to shut it though
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Dd looked at her, and said, "I'm still mama's baby!.......and I love the num!" I was so pleased with her reply I said nothing. Ha ha, Mom!

I love the num, that's priceless!! ::

Here's some of mine. I've been told with all three my children, right after birth, that I'm spoiling them for letting them sleep on my chest.

I live in South Africa and I've gotten this comment TWICE in the last 3 months or so. The first time I was buying colddrink at a cafe outside a shopping center. They ladies at the cafe asked me if I had two boys and one girl. I said no, one boy two girls. They said "I'm so sorry. Maybe next time you'll be lucky and have a boy again." The second time was the teller in the one store. While I was waiting for my dh to pay, she asked what the genders were. I said two girls, one boy. She said: "You cheated your husband. You must have one more so he can have another son." I told her that men determine the sex of the baby, not women. If my dh feels cheated, which he does not, he has only himself to blame. It's not my fault if he can't make boys.
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