Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: Mankato Minnesota
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Ok this is sort of a long story here. I am in the National Guard (please no morality judgements on that; I do what I feel I must do). In January of last year they called me up and shipped me to Iraq (thats where I am right now). In the course of three days I had to pull out of nursing school, get my husband ready to be a single dad, and oooh, yeah, my daughter was still nursing (8mo.) So I left behind an 8mo and a 6 yo and am coming back to an almost 2 yr old and an 8 yr old. Not only that, but aside from a two week leave, I havent seen my husband in over a year. In that time we have also bought a house.
The thing is I am feeling very disconnected from hubby. I love him, I know that, but I at the same time I think that if he packed up my stuff and moved me out (which he admited to considering when I "pushed" him into buying the house on his own) I wouldnt really miss him all that much. I am supposed to go home in April, and I find I am more scared to go home than anything else. To top it off, we are having financial disagreements and when I leave active duty I go back to having no income whatsoever.
So there is lots of stress an seperation and I just have no idea how to deal with all of it. Does anyone have any ideas other than the main-stream dont-address-the-root-of-the-problem crap the Army and the media see fit to feed me (take a vacation with just your spouse, get back to work asap etc)? When I got home on leave in January I was so unused to contact that it was three days before I felt comfortable being touched! This from a former world-class hugger!!!!
I just want to talk to other wives and moms ( I am one of only two married females in our unit) and see if someone has ideas for me. Thanks.