Now, I know that not all men are like this, and I am not trying to make a sweeping generalization, but most women I have talked to have dealt with, dated, married, etc. a man like this.
Why aren't men more romantic? We see these movies that show men being romantic and thoughtful, and though they are unrealistic, and I remind myself frequently that dh doesn't have light, a script writer, music to underscore him, a costumer, hair/makeup people, and a director, but would a little be too much to ask for?
For example..I say I want something romantic for my birthday, he asks what. I say I don't know, you come up with something romantic. The conversation continues until I have given him enough suggestions to basically plan the whole thing. And again, this doesn't happen all the time, nor with all men, but for the most part in my life it has been a theme.
I love my husband very very much, and really have no complaints.
But just a curiosity. I try to be thoughtful and creative even when money is an issue. One year for his brithday I cooked him a Moroccan meal - complete with b'stella (which is a large pain to make) because we didn't have $$ to go out. And there are certainly times when I have no creative moment in my life, and have no idea what to get him. So I certainly don't expect it all the time.
It is little things I guess, I think to pick up some Reese's Peanut Butter Eggs cause I know he likes them. He didn't ask for them. Or get him something that I know he likes as a little surprise.
It is very rare that I get that back. And I do ask, and point it out, so it isn't like I am not communicating about it. But it doesn't seem to change things.
So why do you gals (and guys) suppose that is? I married a great guy, not a dud by any stretch of the imagination. But he like all the other men that I have been with, seems to have this slip his mind.
And please if your DH (or SO) is that thoughtful and romantic - share!!! Were they always like this? Or only after you got together?
Is it that men are too practical? Example - for our wedding, I got my dh a really nice watch, since he had said he wanted a nice watch, and engraved the back of his ring with "I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine" in Hebrew. those were my two wedding gifts to him. He got me a little purse/carrier for my palm pilot. Which I needed and loved very much, but not high on the romantic scale. Is that a practicality thing? Are women less practical?
And again, not trying to make a sweeping generalization, just curious what everyone thinks.
(Just watched a romantic movie, and this question always crosses my mind - so I thought I would ask.