I don't know how many of you remember me or my issues with SO, but in a nutshell he had some drinking/drug issues, responsibility issues, etc. that made me call off impending wedding plans and tell him to move out. Nothing happened for a long time, then I finally got serious and said, "Move out today."
He took the next day off and found us a counselor. He started dealing with some of the financial cr*p that he has been avoiding. He quit drinking (completely, and I did too as a support), and I quit wallowing in my "poor me" cycle and took some initiative (I'm writing again, painting again, and making plans that include only myself, like going riding, out of town with DD, etc.). Everybody has checked back in, and it feels great.
I wanted to post this not necessarily because everyone here knows me, but because I finally feel like there is some hope, and part of that was me taking responsibility for my own happiness. SO was a convenient excuse; even if he hadn't stopped drinking and started dealing with his $$ stuff, it would still be on me to make a happy life for myself.
Just thought a happy update would be a good thing to read; thanks for all the support for the last year or so that I have been posting on our issues!!
Never let your schooling interfere with your education. ~Mark Twain~