if I were you, I would not allow my parents OR in-laws to tell me how to live my life. They "forced "you to stay together?! You cannot allow this type of behavior to continue. If they refuse to back off after you've talked about this issue with them, then it may be time to re-evaluate wether the benefits of having them so involved in your life (working part-time, getting paid full-time wages, etc.)is worth all the extra hassle that comes with it. I'm not sure if you told them about your husband's affair
, but if you did, and they "swept it under the rug", then having these people in your life and the lives of your children will cause long-term damaging effects. But maybe you haven't told them, and in which case, maybe you should - your call.
The reason you seem so unhappy probably has alot to do with the "emotional bullying" your husband is doing to you. Calling you "lazy", making you feel unattractive because you're not the same size as pre-baby (who of us here IS?!), and only having sex when HE says, WHERE he says.......you shouldn't have to deal with this cr*p, mama. Have you fully dealt with his affair - meaning have you gone through the process of realizing that it was NOT your fault(obviously) and working towards being able to trust him again? Sounds to me as though he has ALOT of work to do in order to become trustworthy again. If I were in your shoes, the size of my house, etc. wouldn't make me feel any better either.
Sorry, I've gotta run, but I just wanted to give you a
, and tell you that you really need to sit down and think about your situation, and decide if you can live your life the way you are now. There needs to be some serious changes made, and if your husband and families are unwilling or unable to make them, then it's up to you to make them, even if that means going on with your life without these people in it.
Please forgive me if I seem harsh, not my intent, but your situation gets under my skin.
Whatever you decide, I hope things turn out the way you want them to.