Hi, Mommas
I am in great need for your opinion/advice.
We are married for about 2 years and I love my husband, but I am always wondering about my husband's mental condition(if that is autism, or if not , what is it).
He never has been diagnosed with autism, but I have very strong suspicions that he is autistic.
He doesn't have any friends, he doesn;t have a need to communicate and share, he is very SLOW to understand things, he has no interest in sex (we almost stopped having sex after I got pregnant), he doesn't have a sense of humor( not only mine observation, but many of his family members too), he is very much into routine, and he often doesn't pay attenion to what I or others say ( it makes SO DIFFICULT for us to communicate), as if his mind is always on Mars.
He claims to love me and tells me I am "the best thing that ever happened" to him, but when I am sick with fever and cannot even stand or talk, and ask him to look after a crawling baby so I could lie down, he walks away for his Martial Arts lesson.
Also when I am crying and in a great emotional pain, he walks away, leaving me crying alone.
I always feel so lonely around him, especially when he doesn't pay attention to what I say. I also feel SO REJECTED as a woman, when he looks at me with that bland look, with no sexual attraction at all(in the meantime, he tells me I'm beautiful, gorgeous and the like).
When I was pregnant, he was not supportive.
I feel that I don't have a partner, but a son to take care of.
I am in charge of EVERYTHING, except money (he has a good paying job, which allows for me to be SAHM)
I am in total charge of the baby, because he just is not interested in spending time with anyone, and pretty much by himself, doing his stuff.
I do EVERYTHING around the house - He cannot do dishes, cannot cut with the knife( cook), cannot vacuum, change lightbulb without creating an accident - I am not exaggerating, I tried many times.
The more we are married the more hopeless I become about our future. I do love him, he has many wonderful qualities(kind, easygoing, trusting, non-abusive, generous, loyal, very handsome and many more), but when I think about our life, it becomes so depressing.
Sorry for a long post, I greatly appreciate you reading it.
Any ideas, mommas? Please, help me
THANKS SO MUCH
I am in great need for your opinion/advice.
We are married for about 2 years and I love my husband, but I am always wondering about my husband's mental condition(if that is autism, or if not , what is it).
He never has been diagnosed with autism, but I have very strong suspicions that he is autistic.
He doesn't have any friends, he doesn;t have a need to communicate and share, he is very SLOW to understand things, he has no interest in sex (we almost stopped having sex after I got pregnant), he doesn't have a sense of humor( not only mine observation, but many of his family members too), he is very much into routine, and he often doesn't pay attenion to what I or others say ( it makes SO DIFFICULT for us to communicate), as if his mind is always on Mars.
He claims to love me and tells me I am "the best thing that ever happened" to him, but when I am sick with fever and cannot even stand or talk, and ask him to look after a crawling baby so I could lie down, he walks away for his Martial Arts lesson.
Also when I am crying and in a great emotional pain, he walks away, leaving me crying alone.
I always feel so lonely around him, especially when he doesn't pay attention to what I say. I also feel SO REJECTED as a woman, when he looks at me with that bland look, with no sexual attraction at all(in the meantime, he tells me I'm beautiful, gorgeous and the like).
When I was pregnant, he was not supportive.
I feel that I don't have a partner, but a son to take care of.
I am in charge of EVERYTHING, except money (he has a good paying job, which allows for me to be SAHM)
I am in total charge of the baby, because he just is not interested in spending time with anyone, and pretty much by himself, doing his stuff.
I do EVERYTHING around the house - He cannot do dishes, cannot cut with the knife( cook), cannot vacuum, change lightbulb without creating an accident - I am not exaggerating, I tried many times.
The more we are married the more hopeless I become about our future. I do love him, he has many wonderful qualities(kind, easygoing, trusting, non-abusive, generous, loyal, very handsome and many more), but when I think about our life, it becomes so depressing.
Sorry for a long post, I greatly appreciate you reading it.
Any ideas, mommas? Please, help me
THANKS SO MUCH