My husband is from Russia but he has been here for 12 years and speaks *perfect* English (better than me!). He came here to go to college and we met in the town where he was going to school, which was also the home town of my best friend. We have been together for 5 1/2 years (our 5 year anniversary is on Wednesday!) and I have to say, things just keep getting better. American men have never heald much interest for me- soda drinking, non-smoking, video game playing, sneaker wearing, fast food eating guys.. not for me
I love that he is so well traveled, wears nice clothes and shoes and has a completely different idea of hospitality than any Americans that I have met (myself included.) He's really sensitive to making the guest as comfortable as possiable: offering them the best of what we have in the house, always and not giving it a second thought (where as i might be the slightest bit more self centered - like "you're going to offer them ALL that nice bottle of port that I gave you for Christmas?"). I have also learned a ton about Russian culture, like that most of what we actually grew up thinking that we knew was BS (like that you could buy helium balloons, for instance, or that there really was tons of food to be had... for some reason I me and my family and eveyone else that I knew had this idea that people in the USSR were all one step away from starvation)
As far as cultural differences go I think we have had the most trouble with him expecting me to work. His mother worked full time And did all the cooking and cleaning. It's been hard because I feel like he expects the same from me. In the USSR child care was free and they also had a big network of extended family to help with the kids. It's just not like that here! To pay for child care for three children and work I would have to be making mega bucks. Well anyway. He also can't understand why my family won't help us out when we need it (financially). His family does help us out if we get into a fix but he can't quite understand the Prodestant idea of "well, you're married now, good luck, see you later, kid. Don't ask for anything. You've got to make it on your own now 100%" I get the impression that in his culture, families stick together much more and pool resources more.
Oveall it's been great. I love him and we have such a great time together.